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As the title suggested, I caught my daughter at bed with my Best Friend. I have cut off contacts with my “Friend” but what do I do with my daughter? Should I have a talk with her? Should I just sweep it under the rug? I don't know what to do.
Date: February 17, 2023
You're two completely opposites. I read a lot about you and I read a lot about him, but what I'm not reading is how you two 'vibe'.
I caught myself thinking that I don't want him to be the father of my children. I don't want them to be like him. I tried talking to him about all this, suggested therapy, but he is so dismissive, thinks I'm overthinking, said no to therapy. I suggested we take a break from each other, but he said not to even joke like that, that he loves me and needs me and that a break would kill him.
These are not good traits in a relationship partner. This bit is enough reason to break up with him.
He also sounds very selfish. “He needs you, he loves you and you cannot break up with him because that would kill him.”, but what about your feelings? Where do you factor in?
That's a great idea if we think she's negotiating in good faith. But it seems like she's got OP hooked and is weaponizing his low self esteem to keep him providing for her wants without regard for how she's hurting him.
Yes I did get catfished. The woman that showed up to my date was not the woman that I talked to on tinder, she looked THAT different. Not every guy has a mother, or sister. My mom rarely wore makeup and when she did it was very subtle. I also have a brother, so yes I was not set up to know every minute detail of being a woman, just like many women do not know the minute details of being a man. Artificially creating a new skin tone to portray that as your own is deceitful. I don’t care about skin tone, but the difference was so noticeable that it changed the person’s whole look. There are a few women in my life that I associate with in and out of class/work and I can tell you with 100% confidence that I have no idea what their face actually looks like without makeup, how do you not see the issue that someone could have with that? Men are raised without makeup and basically have to present to the world what they were born with, the most a man can do for his face is skin care and stay lean, that’s it. With make up you can give yourself a stronger chin, a defined jawline, cover up any blemishes, literally change your face structure. How do you not understand when someone isn’t down with that? You’re delusional to think that changing your face beyond recognition is okay and healthy for self esteem.
How do you know if you're ready or not, is it not a process kinda thing?
“He was like a brother to me” — if your ex friend (sorry but there is likely nothing you can do to save your friendship) knew that was how you felt, then that is where you screwed up.
Please don't have kids in an environment like this. You will be a single mom caring for 2 kids and ur partner. Kids just add to the stress he already has. You don't want to crash too.