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My husband (34M) sent me (35F) what was, to him, a cute 30 second slideshow video of a bunch of dick pics he has taken of himself over the years. Instead of finding it funny or sexy, it actually just upset me because I realized I have never seen about 80% of the pics in it. So of course my thoughts are “If he didn’t send those pics to me, who DID he send them to?” Instead of being able to joke with him about how sexy and silly his little video was, all I’ve been able to do is ask him why I’ve never seen the majority of the pics and he doesn’t really have an answer. He is disappointed now too because he hoped I’d feel turned on by the video but all it has done is make me wonder if he is cheating.
There is infidelity in our relationship and even though it happened about 4 years ago I’ve honesty never gotten over it. He swears it wasn’t physical and that he only saw her twice and that NOTHING has happened since but I have clinical depression so my thoughts always tell me the worst.
So after all of this, I’m upset and he is upset now too. He wanted us to have “sexy time” tonight but that has been ruined
So it sounds like you apologized. Did she apologize for bossing you around for something that sounds like an unnecessary/non-urgent errand when you were in a very acute stage of grief? I don't boss my partner around like that at all (and vice versa) so I'd assume she could delay doing that at least a few days, until you could actually process the news about your grandfather
Honestly, I also feel like I only have my side of the story, I am genuinely in the dark about what the hell happened, it just doesn't track for me 🙁
Try being in an open relationship but with obviously set with you guys boundaries