That doesn't make her loving. If she respects you, your friends, you education, your job,if she wishes you to live! a normal life, that would make her loving. She sounds pretty selfish to me and that's not loving.
Woooooow. Dude, even with casual sex you ask them out first. Most people I have had casual sex with, we have gone out for food, drinks, whatever, and seen where things go, or we were all somewhere where it is appropriate, and expected to proposition each other (and that is most definitely NOT randomly after class), which is not something that is common at all.
Yeah ghosting is annoying. I’ve become numb to it at this point. When a girl doesn’t reply to me in 24-48 hours I just fucking mentally check out and move on.
Every single boundary you've ever given him he always thinks “I'll keep constant pressure on her, eventually she'll budge just a little bit, then I'll start pushing the next boundary”. Now clearly this is all new stuff for both of you and it will feel scary, but he doesn't make you feel comfortable. He just makes you feel pressure like this stuff is what a gf is supposed to do. He does just want sex and is willing to push all your boundaries to get it.
If he's working construction and is in his thirties, he knows his work is cyclical. My cynical side wonders if he always has a girlfriend in the winter as a safety net, plus the age gap… Does he regularly ask his friends for money? You can also say No if he asks for more money.
I think there are two things here – is this guy financially responsible and can you date someone that makes less than you?
I don't think it's fair to expect a partner to bootstrap their way out of a jam (in a longer term relationship, there will be naked times) but you also don't want to tie yourself to someone who will mostly cause very hot times (irresponsible with money, repeatedly quits jobs, spendtrift).
You'll have to figure out for yourself if this was a one-off or part of a bigger pattern. Is he really going to pay you back? If this relationship continues, are you going to be okay paying a larger portion of expenses? How would you split bills during the winter months?
Unless you date someone who makes the exact amount as you do, your future partner might be looking at you through the same lense that you are looking at your current partner if you earn less. Is that a fair way to be treated?
For whatever reason, she doesn't want to be pinned down in a formal “relationship.” You're both pretty young. Decide if you want to play by her terms, or not at all. It feels like withholding of affection, from what you have said.
Or, give it a few months before making any decisions.
You have 2 choices. I think in this case your best choice is to have her go with a friend/family member and have fun. Maybe you can drive them or take them to dinner before?
Option 2 is to go with her and be a good sport about it. Seems like T-Swift puts on a good show so it might be fun even if you are not a fan.
I did this with a friend. She loves country music and I don't. But she wanted me to come with her to a concert so I did. I went because we were friends who took care of each other. We negotiated some details. I had my share of margaritas and shook my ass so hot at that George Strait concert despite my initial misgivings.
Just support people you care about. And shake your ass at the concert.
Actually moms have a radar that is extremely accurate. So, there is some other reason she doesnt like him?
Again, he doesnt get to tell you you are over weight when he is more over weight than you are, that is not how it works.
HIS body image issues should not become yours, nor should you let them.
I spent a few months in another city for my apprenticeship. I was happier, I think.
So the boy is good at grooming. Date someone closer to your age
I’m highly attracted to him as a masc presenting man, just not when he starts shaving and wearing girl clothes, etc.
As for him not being attracted to me… I don’t know what to do about that. It’s crushed my self esteem, but I love him so much, I’m scared to leave.
It’s all just such a mess.
It's not. But then I think we should break up. Cos whilst I'm on a trajectory to earn more, I won't ever earn as much as him.
That doesn't make her loving. If she respects you, your friends, you education, your job,if she wishes you to live! a normal life, that would make her loving. She sounds pretty selfish to me and that's not loving.
Woooooow. Dude, even with casual sex you ask them out first. Most people I have had casual sex with, we have gone out for food, drinks, whatever, and seen where things go, or we were all somewhere where it is appropriate, and expected to proposition each other (and that is most definitely NOT randomly after class), which is not something that is common at all.
Yeah ghosting is annoying. I’ve become numb to it at this point. When a girl doesn’t reply to me in 24-48 hours I just fucking mentally check out and move on.
I wish I could have my own bed that would be such a great solution ? we on-line in a city so our flat is tiny, we don't even have a dining table.
Every single boundary you've ever given him he always thinks “I'll keep constant pressure on her, eventually she'll budge just a little bit, then I'll start pushing the next boundary”. Now clearly this is all new stuff for both of you and it will feel scary, but he doesn't make you feel comfortable. He just makes you feel pressure like this stuff is what a gf is supposed to do. He does just want sex and is willing to push all your boundaries to get it.
If he's working construction and is in his thirties, he knows his work is cyclical. My cynical side wonders if he always has a girlfriend in the winter as a safety net, plus the age gap… Does he regularly ask his friends for money? You can also say No if he asks for more money.
I think there are two things here – is this guy financially responsible and can you date someone that makes less than you?
I don't think it's fair to expect a partner to bootstrap their way out of a jam (in a longer term relationship, there will be naked times) but you also don't want to tie yourself to someone who will mostly cause very hot times (irresponsible with money, repeatedly quits jobs, spendtrift).
You'll have to figure out for yourself if this was a one-off or part of a bigger pattern. Is he really going to pay you back? If this relationship continues, are you going to be okay paying a larger portion of expenses? How would you split bills during the winter months?
Unless you date someone who makes the exact amount as you do, your future partner might be looking at you through the same lense that you are looking at your current partner if you earn less. Is that a fair way to be treated?
For whatever reason, she doesn't want to be pinned down in a formal “relationship.” You're both pretty young. Decide if you want to play by her terms, or not at all. It feels like withholding of affection, from what you have said.
Or, give it a few months before making any decisions.
Dude what
If this is real…
You have 2 choices. I think in this case your best choice is to have her go with a friend/family member and have fun. Maybe you can drive them or take them to dinner before?
Option 2 is to go with her and be a good sport about it. Seems like T-Swift puts on a good show so it might be fun even if you are not a fan.
I did this with a friend. She loves country music and I don't. But she wanted me to come with her to a concert so I did. I went because we were friends who took care of each other. We negotiated some details. I had my share of margaritas and shook my ass so hot at that George Strait concert despite my initial misgivings.
Just support people you care about. And shake your ass at the concert.