I don't think op has a check list of things she wants her bf to do, I get the impression that she just wants him to show her affection which is very normal.
You should care about how your partner feels before during and after sex, if doing so feels like a chore you shouldn't be having sex with that person. Is supposed to be a positive experience for both parties, if it isn't that's not healthy
What were the other things, just for education
I don't think op has a check list of things she wants her bf to do, I get the impression that she just wants him to show her affection which is very normal.
You should care about how your partner feels before during and after sex, if doing so feels like a chore you shouldn't be having sex with that person. Is supposed to be a positive experience for both parties, if it isn't that's not healthy