So you’re worried about his mental state and has tried to help him with the basics of getting out of a funk, but he is not motivated to do anything. You’re feeling the toll of his mental state.
Let me ask you this: If his house was on fire right now, what would you do? This is a serious question.
You cannot be on a mortgage together if you're not married, just FYI. Plenty of others have talked about the red flags, so I won't go into too much detail about that. Absolutely don't give him half your paycheck. Look into how you would even be able to legally buy a house together because to me it sounds like he wants to buy himself a house with your money.
But she did say that, and her mother even said that to him in her comments. It was the mother's birthday party as well. Theirs a time and place for such a distressing conversation
Well this is all very toxic. Just this weekend two of my friends visited with my partner and I and never once did I get threatened and shitty that my partner and friends were bonding or having discussions without me.
Second, you already “made up” for this. You apologized and he accepted it. He is telling you this is fine.
Third, let's say he isn't fine and is still mad. That's not on you. If he's not a big boy to the point of being able to use his words to communicate with his girlfriend like an actual adult then that's not on you. You're not responsible for his feelings and if he wants to be passive aggressive and petty than that's entirely on HIM. He doesn't get to accept your apology like everything's fine then turn around and keep being a petty bitch about it.
Fourth, you know your boyfriend better than randos on Reddit. If you don't know what makes him happy then we aren't going to either from the little information you give us in order to keep him from looking bad.
Your post history is almost entirely issues with your boyfriend. This is neither healthy nor normal.
She’s 31, not 13. She’s responsible for her own personality and behavior, not social media. She has shown you that she’s self-indulgent, entitled and abusive and that she only sees you as a servant who exists solely to fund her desired lifestyle, and you’re still here desperately making up excuses to justify her behavior. She’s not an impressionable child who doesn’t know any better. She’s not even a young adult. She’s a 31-year-old woman woman who behaves like an entitled, narcissistic pig. There are plenty of people who have social media and do not treat their partners this way. Either wake up, or resign yourself to a lifetime of being used and treated like crap.
I’m confused. It’s a UTI. Bacteria got into your bladder. It’s common. It’s normal. It needs some antibiotics and he needs to wash his penis better.
You aren’t oozing puss from a necrotic cyst or something.
He’s tired of of YOU always feeling bad?!! Gosh. Poor baby.
He sounds really ignorant and immature. You aren’t wrong to feel the way you do- I would as well if that helps.
You’re sick. Really you deserve compassion, kindness and someone who will hold you and treat you extra nice until you get better. Someone who understands that UTI’s aren’t gross and bodies just do things sometimes.
Men can also get UTI’s by the way. It’s less common but it happens.
So you’re worried about his mental state and has tried to help him with the basics of getting out of a funk, but he is not motivated to do anything. You’re feeling the toll of his mental state.
Let me ask you this: If his house was on fire right now, what would you do? This is a serious question.
You cannot be on a mortgage together if you're not married, just FYI. Plenty of others have talked about the red flags, so I won't go into too much detail about that. Absolutely don't give him half your paycheck. Look into how you would even be able to legally buy a house together because to me it sounds like he wants to buy himself a house with your money.
But she did say that, and her mother even said that to him in her comments. It was the mother's birthday party as well. Theirs a time and place for such a distressing conversation
Well this is all very toxic. Just this weekend two of my friends visited with my partner and I and never once did I get threatened and shitty that my partner and friends were bonding or having discussions without me.
Second, you already “made up” for this. You apologized and he accepted it. He is telling you this is fine.
Third, let's say he isn't fine and is still mad. That's not on you. If he's not a big boy to the point of being able to use his words to communicate with his girlfriend like an actual adult then that's not on you. You're not responsible for his feelings and if he wants to be passive aggressive and petty than that's entirely on HIM. He doesn't get to accept your apology like everything's fine then turn around and keep being a petty bitch about it.
Fourth, you know your boyfriend better than randos on Reddit. If you don't know what makes him happy then we aren't going to either from the little information you give us in order to keep him from looking bad.
Your post history is almost entirely issues with your boyfriend. This is neither healthy nor normal.
She’s 31, not 13. She’s responsible for her own personality and behavior, not social media. She has shown you that she’s self-indulgent, entitled and abusive and that she only sees you as a servant who exists solely to fund her desired lifestyle, and you’re still here desperately making up excuses to justify her behavior. She’s not an impressionable child who doesn’t know any better. She’s not even a young adult. She’s a 31-year-old woman woman who behaves like an entitled, narcissistic pig. There are plenty of people who have social media and do not treat their partners this way. Either wake up, or resign yourself to a lifetime of being used and treated like crap.
Thank you very much for your advice. These are points that I need to think and make the decision 🙁 Yes, it hurts but it’s true
I’m confused. It’s a UTI. Bacteria got into your bladder. It’s common. It’s normal. It needs some antibiotics and he needs to wash his penis better.
You aren’t oozing puss from a necrotic cyst or something.
He’s tired of of YOU always feeling bad?!! Gosh. Poor baby.
He sounds really ignorant and immature. You aren’t wrong to feel the way you do- I would as well if that helps.
You’re sick. Really you deserve compassion, kindness and someone who will hold you and treat you extra nice until you get better. Someone who understands that UTI’s aren’t gross and bodies just do things sometimes.
Men can also get UTI’s by the way. It’s less common but it happens.