Why aren't you taking your fiancee side in this? Does Bob know what Sarah has been doing? Has he done nothing about it? Has he condoned that behavior? If so why are you friends with people who treat your fiancee that way? Why would you even want them at your wedding? For being 31 you don't seem mature at all.
The people left behind are the ones that matter, including you.
Do what you need to, what they need you to do. So if she says something whilst you are there, okay then you know to leave, but you tried.
Manage your own life going forward, she has done this to herself, there is nothing you could have done to stop her.
Think about your life going forward, if you need to see her then do so, because she will be dead soon enough and the only people that really matter are those left behind.
Do you want to marry a man who made a choice (yes it was a choice) like this without consulting you?
Even if my mom gives him money he will spend them in a day and come back. He has a gambling problem
Because none of us wanted to know this
Agree with all of this.
Also…why not propose to him? You’re not a passenger in the relationship.
Why aren't you taking your fiancee side in this? Does Bob know what Sarah has been doing? Has he done nothing about it? Has he condoned that behavior? If so why are you friends with people who treat your fiancee that way? Why would you even want them at your wedding? For being 31 you don't seem mature at all.
The people left behind are the ones that matter, including you.
Do what you need to, what they need you to do. So if she says something whilst you are there, okay then you know to leave, but you tried.
Manage your own life going forward, she has done this to herself, there is nothing you could have done to stop her.
Think about your life going forward, if you need to see her then do so, because she will be dead soon enough and the only people that really matter are those left behind.
Talk to a lawyer asap. They'll explain all your options. Don't tell your fiancé.