I think that no matter what you need a break, she wants out of the country for a while, it isn't fair to have a troubled relationship hanging over her during that time. You are somewhat clutching at straws, but then again she is too, there's too much emotional investment clouding your views. Save the friendship first before trying to save the relationship.
It's not going to happen without heart ache for you. She's not attracted. Your best bet is to start dating and spending time with others, and it might stoke some feelings, or fomo. Or keep things how they are but it's more like polyamory where you seek physical relationships with other people.
Do not stay with this abusive asshole because of pride. Manipulators are good at manipulating people. It’s what they do. A lot of very smart people have fallen for it.
I would stop having sex while you reconsider the relationship. Now that she knows your net worth, she is feeling pretty entitled to it after all of 8 months together.
OP took the brave decision to raise the kids, she found a decent man to act as a father to them and provided them with a stable home life.
It's not as if he asked for a paternity test. He assumed she would get an abortion because that was what was convenient for him. He didn't ask whether she wanted to keep them, he didn't want to even entertain that possibility. He never tried to find her later either, once the heat of the moment had passed. OK OP blocked him but his mother found her easily so he could have done so too.
You are finding excuses to stay. You are afraid to leave, so you are a doormat to him. Nobody here can tell you what to do because you know. I offer no sympathy, no empathy, just honesty. Do with it what you will.
My girlfriend said she wants to replace her last name with mine if we marry because her last name is of Muslim origin even though she was never Muslim to begin with but constantly faces prejudice over it in Europe.
I don't mind if they replace their last name with mine or not, surprised anyone would get so butt hurt about this xd.
You definitely need to have the uncomfortable conversation with him about it. It's going to be uncomfortable no matter what, but try to make it a conversation about improvement, not blame. Don't tell him your other partners were better. Don't say “you're doing x wrong” say things like “what I prefer is” or “what really gets me going is if you do this”. Make it constructive. That still doesn't guarantee that he'll take it well. But you need to have the convo because you don't want to spend the rest of your life with someone you hate having sex with.
I think that no matter what you need a break, she wants out of the country for a while, it isn't fair to have a troubled relationship hanging over her during that time. You are somewhat clutching at straws, but then again she is too, there's too much emotional investment clouding your views. Save the friendship first before trying to save the relationship.
You are her pal, her bf without benefits.
It's not going to happen without heart ache for you. She's not attracted. Your best bet is to start dating and spending time with others, and it might stoke some feelings, or fomo. Or keep things how they are but it's more like polyamory where you seek physical relationships with other people.
Do not stay with this abusive asshole because of pride. Manipulators are good at manipulating people. It’s what they do. A lot of very smart people have fallen for it.
This should be a 1-3 year question, not 7. Why is it a problem now?
It’s not the years together that is the problem but you avoiding these issues for way too long.
I would stop having sex while you reconsider the relationship. Now that she knows your net worth, she is feeling pretty entitled to it after all of 8 months together.
OP took the brave decision to raise the kids, she found a decent man to act as a father to them and provided them with a stable home life.
It's not as if he asked for a paternity test. He assumed she would get an abortion because that was what was convenient for him. He didn't ask whether she wanted to keep them, he didn't want to even entertain that possibility. He never tried to find her later either, once the heat of the moment had passed. OK OP blocked him but his mother found her easily so he could have done so too.
You are finding excuses to stay. You are afraid to leave, so you are a doormat to him. Nobody here can tell you what to do because you know. I offer no sympathy, no empathy, just honesty. Do with it what you will.
My girlfriend said she wants to replace her last name with mine if we marry because her last name is of Muslim origin even though she was never Muslim to begin with but constantly faces prejudice over it in Europe.
I don't mind if they replace their last name with mine or not, surprised anyone would get so butt hurt about this xd.
You definitely need to have the uncomfortable conversation with him about it. It's going to be uncomfortable no matter what, but try to make it a conversation about improvement, not blame. Don't tell him your other partners were better. Don't say “you're doing x wrong” say things like “what I prefer is” or “what really gets me going is if you do this”. Make it constructive. That still doesn't guarantee that he'll take it well. But you need to have the convo because you don't want to spend the rest of your life with someone you hate having sex with.