Definitely performance anxiety and the fact that your boyfriend hasn’t been very understanding. Try to communicate the whole anxiety thing better to him and hopefully he understands. Let him know that the more he doubts you, the harder it is for you to fix the anxiety.
This is incredibly controlling. Either he trusts you or he doesn’t. If he doesn’t then you should leave. It is none of his business what happens between Sami and Tom and you have the right to choose your friends. If he is willing to die on this hill where will he flex his insecurities next? Tell you he hill leave if you continue to stay in touch with your hard male cousin? Tell you to cut another friend because she likes to dress provocatively? Mark has allowed his insecurities to be projected into you and this is not healthy.
I have a friend that basically had your story. They chose a donor, got IVF and his triplets are now learning to drive. The donor they chose was close to his height and had similar ethnicity (Eastern European). Looking at them, you would never guess they weren't his biological children, not that it matters.
Also, consider adoption. Yes, there are lots of horror stories about how difficult it is, but it doesn't have to be. I had a female friend who knew she was infertile. She had a condition where she looked female externally, but her internal female organs never developed. Anyway, she married. She and her husband started the adoption process right away. They were both white with advanced college degrees and great jobs.
So they took the classes and their home study went well. So they next step was an interview to find out what kind of child they wanted to adopt. It went something like this:
So you want an infant? They said not necessarily. They were in their early 30s and said they'd take a child up to age 7 or so.
So you want the child to be white? They said they didn't care.
They asked if they'd be willing to take siblings. They said sure!
They assumed they would want a child without health problems. They said they could probably handle it if it wasn't anything too serious.
In other words, they just wanted to be parents, just like you and your wife. So a couple of months went by and they got a call. The agency said “We have 3 year old twin Latino boys with a slight learning delay”. My friend and her husband said “When can we pick them up?”
That was that. They were parents of 3 year olds before their first wedding anniversary!
I found the post about half a year ago and I'm 100% sure it's him and that the post is about me (and if it's not me he had another girl beside me, which I don't think).
No, not really, it's mostly the post. He once told me that he likes skinny girls who do sports a lot (before I started doing sports and lost weight) which also hurt me, but besides that I never had the feeling that I'm not good enough.
Let sleeping dogs lie.
Melatonin
Definitely performance anxiety and the fact that your boyfriend hasn’t been very understanding. Try to communicate the whole anxiety thing better to him and hopefully he understands. Let him know that the more he doubts you, the harder it is for you to fix the anxiety.
Yeah , I keep hearing that stat, doesn’t make it more appealing.
This has to be a troll post. Powered through. ?
I had to re-read your ages 3 times. This “man” is pathetic. Get rid of him.
Don't get back with your ex who clearly enjoys mind games.
If she wants to speak to you plainly, she can do it fully sober: she has your number.
This is incredibly controlling. Either he trusts you or he doesn’t. If he doesn’t then you should leave. It is none of his business what happens between Sami and Tom and you have the right to choose your friends. If he is willing to die on this hill where will he flex his insecurities next? Tell you he hill leave if you continue to stay in touch with your hard male cousin? Tell you to cut another friend because she likes to dress provocatively? Mark has allowed his insecurities to be projected into you and this is not healthy.
As a father lemme just say, that is fucked right the hell up man. That ain't playful, that's really fucked up.
I have a friend that basically had your story. They chose a donor, got IVF and his triplets are now learning to drive. The donor they chose was close to his height and had similar ethnicity (Eastern European). Looking at them, you would never guess they weren't his biological children, not that it matters.
Also, consider adoption. Yes, there are lots of horror stories about how difficult it is, but it doesn't have to be. I had a female friend who knew she was infertile. She had a condition where she looked female externally, but her internal female organs never developed. Anyway, she married. She and her husband started the adoption process right away. They were both white with advanced college degrees and great jobs.
So they took the classes and their home study went well. So they next step was an interview to find out what kind of child they wanted to adopt. It went something like this:
So you want an infant? They said not necessarily. They were in their early 30s and said they'd take a child up to age 7 or so.
So you want the child to be white? They said they didn't care.
They asked if they'd be willing to take siblings. They said sure!
They assumed they would want a child without health problems. They said they could probably handle it if it wasn't anything too serious.
In other words, they just wanted to be parents, just like you and your wife. So a couple of months went by and they got a call. The agency said “We have 3 year old twin Latino boys with a slight learning delay”. My friend and her husband said “When can we pick them up?”
That was that. They were parents of 3 year olds before their first wedding anniversary!
I found the post about half a year ago and I'm 100% sure it's him and that the post is about me (and if it's not me he had another girl beside me, which I don't think).
No, not really, it's mostly the post. He once told me that he likes skinny girls who do sports a lot (before I started doing sports and lost weight) which also hurt me, but besides that I never had the feeling that I'm not good enough.