My situation is dire at the moment, but only because I just got my first job after being in hospital/unemployed for a long while and my first wage will arrive at the end of January. Again I'm not too bothered about the money
My mother (in her 70s) has a great expression. People are always growing. Either they grow together, or they grow apart.
Unfortunately, it sounds like this is the latter for you and your BF.
I would caution you against “Sunk Cost Fallacy”. Four years together is all well and good, but if he's not in the same relationship space as you are, you are fighting a futile battle.
Unfortunately I do know a person whose ex-husband used their going to a shelter as ammunition against them in the child custody fight. He used that they needed to stay in a shelter with their son as evidence of unstable housing. There was a lot of other things going on, as the ex-husband was incredibly well connected in the area, but it was one more thing to use against them.
This absolutely does not mean OP should stay in this abusive relationship. It's that it's potentially understandable as part of the reason why someone might be hesitant to go to a women's shelter. It's horror stories like this that help abusers keep their victims afraid to leave.
Your sick, creepy dad is drooling over your sister. He has a crush on her and wants to be seen with a hottie. He is not trying to spend time with you. He is trying to spend time with her. Do not bring your sister into that situation. You need another parent of your friend to chaperone you and your friends. Or go and do things without your dad.
No, you call your emergency line and get medical aid to the residence immediately.
controlling is telling him i won’t let him go
How is giving him the ultimatum “if you go I'm dumping you” any different?
Um what is there to think? It isn’t like you are in a long term relationship. Tell her she is free to now be with him like she wants.
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My situation is dire at the moment, but only because I just got my first job after being in hospital/unemployed for a long while and my first wage will arrive at the end of January. Again I'm not too bothered about the money
That's fair enough, missing appointments isn't something you'd want in a therapist.
My mother (in her 70s) has a great expression. People are always growing. Either they grow together, or they grow apart.
Unfortunately, it sounds like this is the latter for you and your BF.
I would caution you against “Sunk Cost Fallacy”. Four years together is all well and good, but if he's not in the same relationship space as you are, you are fighting a futile battle.
If she’s lying to you and cheating, AND gets away with it, she will just make sure to dispose of the condom next time.
I'm sorry this has happened to you. Move on. Be with someone who wants to be with you and is able to communicate properly.
Unfortunately I do know a person whose ex-husband used their going to a shelter as ammunition against them in the child custody fight. He used that they needed to stay in a shelter with their son as evidence of unstable housing. There was a lot of other things going on, as the ex-husband was incredibly well connected in the area, but it was one more thing to use against them.
This absolutely does not mean OP should stay in this abusive relationship. It's that it's potentially understandable as part of the reason why someone might be hesitant to go to a women's shelter. It's horror stories like this that help abusers keep their victims afraid to leave.
Your sick, creepy dad is drooling over your sister. He has a crush on her and wants to be seen with a hottie. He is not trying to spend time with you. He is trying to spend time with her. Do not bring your sister into that situation. You need another parent of your friend to chaperone you and your friends. Or go and do things without your dad.