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For the first 2 Christmas’ post separation, I did the same thing your gf is talking about doing – waking up at my ex’s house with the kids to open up presents and pretend there is Santa etc. The events did NOT make me want to reconcile with the ex but did make me feel less guilty for depriving my children of a “normal family” – which I felt a lot of during the first year of separation.
My bf was thankfully very understanding and chill. Basically it meant we did not spent Christmas morning together!
This year I am in a much better mental state and living situation where I actually got to properly deck the halls and have a full size tree etc. The ex messaged me to ask if we want to do Christmas together again and I declined. I think the kids can now handle the separate Christmas thing – maybe they could have always and it was me who could not? But either way I am thankful my bf was understanding when I needed him to, and I am thankful the ex is accommodating (he never tried to cross boundaries or undermine my decisions).
I think for this to work all 3 of you need to have the right intentions. The ex can’t be trying to undermine your relationship. The gf needs to be clear about her boundaries and also get the ex to pay proper child support (not just random money), and you need to decide whether dating a mom with all the complications is worth your while. It can work – your gf is the central point of it all – so she needs to really do better than “wish you would trust me”. She needs to communicate to you her intentions and feelings and grow enough of a spine to hold the ex accountable for payments and respecting boundaries.
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You’re not dumb, you love him and that’s why you’re letting him walk over you. Talk about it, if he’s not willing to commit leg him go.
Well, I'm glad that helps! The stigma placed on you as a man regarding sex is not easy to break from, so I understand why it would feel scary and overwhelming to tell a sex partner about what the stigma says is ewbadfail. There's nothing wrong with you. People need different levels of support. I'm really glad you were able to find, and advocate, for the support you needed to have fulfilling sex.
She has heard your boundaries and decided to laugh at them instead of respecting you.
She does not respect your needs
Let that sink in. Nothing else matters more in your relationship than that. Life is gonna get naked. It always does. You will need a partner who listens to you, respects you and has your back.
She’s laughing at your needs and boundaries. If you aren’t sure you were clear enough with her before- Go ahead and try telling her one more time slowly and clearly that she needs to respect your boundaries. If she laughs again just walk.
You deserve someone who sees you and respects your boundaries.
Damn haha.
There’s so much to unpack here. Like thank you for making a generalization about all men.
What's the point of wasting more time?
Not going to comment on your specific situation, but there are also plenty of atheist Jews who still want to raise their kids Jewish. I’m an agnostic Jew, both my parents are atheist, and I was raised in a reform synagogue where plenty of regular attendees talk to the rabbis about how they don’t believe in god. It sounds like you don’t really understand how complex Judaism is, or what it means to be culturally Jewish. However, if you don’t want to convert, this is probably not the relationship for you.
Don’t say, I would like custody of my daughter right off the bat. Make it a decision with her. I’m not saying manipulate your wife or lie to her or twist it but don’t make the decision for you until you’ve spoken to your wife. Sit down and say,
“you know I went to meet and spend some time with my daughter, while there her grandmother informed she wouldn’t be able to take care of her much longer and in the short term would wind up with her great aunt. I’m happy to hear my daughter has loving family but after that discussion I became worried about her long term well being and care. I know this is new and I can’t explain why I already feel such an openness to this idea but, would you be willing for us to take custody of her and raise her as ours? I know you don’t want kids, I get that and respect it, and I know this is an unexpected situation. I’m not asking you to decide right now, but I am asking that we talk about it together as whatever happens, I think I would like to be involved in her life and help out when ever and how ever I can.”
Unilateral decisions with no consideration for your partner are what ends marriages. Bringing your wife into the decision and making it known which way you are leaning and asking for a discussion about what it would like and how it might work can help both of you make the decision you want together. Worst case, and I do mean worst, having this talk with her will allow you two to figure out a way to split amicably without resentment or hostility if it turns out a hard line for one of you. Best scenario, whatever you two decide will be something you’re both in board with and can prepare for and build that future together.
Mostly yes. I guess it depends on severity. For example, if he had cancer, it would be nude to expect her to not be able to talk about how she feels about it with someone. Relationship is not one way street.
I know it’s so frustrating.
Cheap like he’d rather eat at a diner than a fancy restaurant because it costs too much.
Honestly I’m not really looking for financial support, I have my masters in a good paying STEM field…but I do want to do things and travel that might cost more than he’s willing to put out at the time.
Why do you want to keep this one sided friendship?
He mooching off of you, using you financially, not appreciative or willing to admit all you're doing for him, bulldozing ovet you valid concerns, verbally abusive and again dismissive of you, makes you feel bad about yourself and guilts you and this isn't even the first time he's used you financially? Why do you let him treat you like a doormat?
While you don't have to go full scorched earth you really should control the narrative and tell family and friends, if she looses any friends because of the truth it's completely on her.