Grief is very normal. You’re right. However, leaving your partner in the dark for two weeks is not. She asked for space and from the sounds of it OP is giving her that space. It’s now up to her to come back around and return to her current relationship instead of wallowing over one from four years ago. I recognize the time she wasted and the pain she must’ve felt because of that but I stand by my belief that two weeks is more than enough time for her to have some personal space. After two weeks I would expect some form level of respect from my girlfriend for her to reach out and communicate with me. This seems reasonable in my eyes.
This made me a little misty eyed thanks for saying that. I'm grown enough not to blame my parents but I grew up with a dad telling me straight to my face at 10 years old “I never wanted kids. You ruined my life” and I think I'm just made myself ok with the fact I was never wanted and its a theme thats followed me that you made me realize I've accepted feeling small n my adult life. Its sad that it's taken strangers live! to make me see that but thank you
We had all the pictures saved in our chat which keeps it from getting deleted which is why im a little conflicted even though i get where youre coming from.
Sounds like a foundational difference, you’re going to have to face this difference sooner or late and you’d rather do it earlier rather than down the line when you’re further entangled.
yes controlling is telling him i won’t let him go, which i’m not, i’m saying he can definitely go.
saying i will break up if he does is just me having boundaries.
i just want it to work out that’s why
Grief is very normal. You’re right. However, leaving your partner in the dark for two weeks is not. She asked for space and from the sounds of it OP is giving her that space. It’s now up to her to come back around and return to her current relationship instead of wallowing over one from four years ago. I recognize the time she wasted and the pain she must’ve felt because of that but I stand by my belief that two weeks is more than enough time for her to have some personal space. After two weeks I would expect some form level of respect from my girlfriend for her to reach out and communicate with me. This seems reasonable in my eyes.
This made me a little misty eyed thanks for saying that. I'm grown enough not to blame my parents but I grew up with a dad telling me straight to my face at 10 years old “I never wanted kids. You ruined my life” and I think I'm just made myself ok with the fact I was never wanted and its a theme thats followed me that you made me realize I've accepted feeling small n my adult life. Its sad that it's taken strangers live! to make me see that but thank you
We had all the pictures saved in our chat which keeps it from getting deleted which is why im a little conflicted even though i get where youre coming from.
Sounds like a foundational difference, you’re going to have to face this difference sooner or late and you’d rather do it earlier rather than down the line when you’re further entangled.
If “I like your small tits and small ass” is unforgivable you desperately need therapy. And a reality check.