I think you should take several seats as a 20 year old calling everyone kiddo when they don’t agree with you. Something about this topic triggers you to the point of lashing out as you are here. Talk to your therapist about what and why. That’s your answer.
As someone who spent many years just being angry because of the shit hand I was dealt with life and parents and upbringing, I promise you need to look at yourself instead of being an asshole to people for fun. Hurt people hurt people. Angry people want to fight about things that don’t make much sense. Find what the real issue is, because I promise it’s about a lot more than Santa.
My first car was a Focus, so I'm kinda partial. Lmao. However, instead of the car, focus on the experience of the date with her. What little/extra things can you do? Hold the door open for her and close it. Walk her to the door when dropping her off. Foot the bill for the date. If you're walking on the sidewalk, always have yourself closest to the road and her away from the road. I'd be willing to bet money that she'll remember that far more than what car you drove to take her there. The car is just the tool to get you there. You, the person, are in charge of making the memory stick.
LOL! Tell him that since he talked with his dick about you, you decided to talk with your “girl” down there and your girl advised you not to waste time with talking dickhead.
Update me! I want to hear how this ends. Best to you.
We really really appreciate your outlook. Like seriously thank you. The situation is complicated, the idea of cutting ties with Darcy stresses her out due to the level of closeness they have had and the problems Darcy has helped her though. I agree with you but Alex is struggling with this. Cutting ties will cause a lot of drama with other people in the friend group and will cause a lot of mess. She just refuses to let go. I want her to let go. There’s lots of conversations to be had about this.
One persons red flag is another person’s reasonable life challenge.
Is it a red flag if a girl talks to her ex every day for example? I’m sure she would say it’s comforting and meaningless and helps her emotionally.
I think my big mouth rightly gets pointed out as a red flag by partners lol. I personally think I’m just honest and I enjoy that about myself, but it’s concerning from the outside looking in.
Just saying you don’t need to feel guilty for not being perfect. You’re fine, just work on your stuff and I’m glad you don’t apologize for it.
I’m gonna be honest- that is a legit reason to leave because imagine having to change your personality and how you see life, all based around him. You need to have someone who matches your energy or is on the same wavelength or vibe, otherwise this is just gonna keep being a problem in your relationship and it’s gonna keep you unhappy. Nobody wants to be in a relationship where they can’t be themselves and feel validated. I think you should speak to him about how you feel because maybe he’s just not putting effort into the relationship anymore and he’s just not bothered with concealing how he feels
I am so, so happy for you that you made it out. Big internet stranger hugs.
I'll give it a shot. Thanks for taking the time to help.
I'll never eat chili the same again ?
I think you should take several seats as a 20 year old calling everyone kiddo when they don’t agree with you. Something about this topic triggers you to the point of lashing out as you are here. Talk to your therapist about what and why. That’s your answer.
As someone who spent many years just being angry because of the shit hand I was dealt with life and parents and upbringing, I promise you need to look at yourself instead of being an asshole to people for fun. Hurt people hurt people. Angry people want to fight about things that don’t make much sense. Find what the real issue is, because I promise it’s about a lot more than Santa.
My first car was a Focus, so I'm kinda partial. Lmao. However, instead of the car, focus on the experience of the date with her. What little/extra things can you do? Hold the door open for her and close it. Walk her to the door when dropping her off. Foot the bill for the date. If you're walking on the sidewalk, always have yourself closest to the road and her away from the road. I'd be willing to bet money that she'll remember that far more than what car you drove to take her there. The car is just the tool to get you there. You, the person, are in charge of making the memory stick.
An arrest would never be made on he said/she said. There has to be evidence to support the arrest.
LOL! Tell him that since he talked with his dick about you, you decided to talk with your “girl” down there and your girl advised you not to waste time with talking dickhead.
Update me! I want to hear how this ends. Best to you.
If he had that big of an issue with her past behavior, maybe he shouldn’t have married her and then pulled this crap. Two wrongs don’t make a right.
We really really appreciate your outlook. Like seriously thank you. The situation is complicated, the idea of cutting ties with Darcy stresses her out due to the level of closeness they have had and the problems Darcy has helped her though. I agree with you but Alex is struggling with this. Cutting ties will cause a lot of drama with other people in the friend group and will cause a lot of mess. She just refuses to let go. I want her to let go. There’s lots of conversations to be had about this.
One persons red flag is another person’s reasonable life challenge.
Is it a red flag if a girl talks to her ex every day for example? I’m sure she would say it’s comforting and meaningless and helps her emotionally.
I think my big mouth rightly gets pointed out as a red flag by partners lol. I personally think I’m just honest and I enjoy that about myself, but it’s concerning from the outside looking in.
Just saying you don’t need to feel guilty for not being perfect. You’re fine, just work on your stuff and I’m glad you don’t apologize for it.
I’m gonna be honest- that is a legit reason to leave because imagine having to change your personality and how you see life, all based around him. You need to have someone who matches your energy or is on the same wavelength or vibe, otherwise this is just gonna keep being a problem in your relationship and it’s gonna keep you unhappy. Nobody wants to be in a relationship where they can’t be themselves and feel validated. I think you should speak to him about how you feel because maybe he’s just not putting effort into the relationship anymore and he’s just not bothered with concealing how he feels