As a 35yo dude I can straight up tell u I have forgotten my own age plenty of times, the most recent I was on the phone with a government department and told the lady I was 34 then had to do the math in my head and correct myself.
You dump him, straight up. Don't waste your time on people that don't deserve you. It's a hot pill to swallow but self respect is a thing. I wouldn't ever trust my partner ever again after this, that's just me though. Would you want to live! like that for the rest of your life? If the answer is no, probably bail.
Naaa, for real, I compartmentalised all that shit a long time ago.
Not lying, I have really good and close friends that are 20 years younger – really beautiful women, I see them as people I have to look after, like family.
Some of them are the daughters of friends, so there is a line there that I would never cross. I am the trusted guy purely because if I was ever creepy with even one young lady, all the young ladies I know would know about it within 45 seconds.
And also – I had such a fucking awesome youth, there is nothing I didn't do in the 90's.
So I have no ambitions to seduce a younger lady.
Don't get me wrong, I love taking them out to dinner, and to exhibit the manners of a gentleman, and to just be there to listen to their mad stories.
I guess I act like a nightclub bouncer, protect them and pay for dinner.
I really relish the friendships I have, all of them, with all kinds of amazing and truly beautiful people.
I am just really in love and lust with my own life partner.
I really don't want or need to objectify my friends.
I mean – the closest it gets it when they rock up for chicken wings and beers and the skirt is too short. I'll drag the table between us so I'm not distracted by some sexy legs. I like being the genuine guy more than the horny old wolf, I guess.
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It was an ex but someone I've known for 20+ years. I see this person maybe 2-3 times a year. Like I said, she's fully aware of this person. Like you said, its a bad look.
We have chatted briefly but I haven't really had an opportunity to explain myself. Tuesday she said she loved me and wanted to talk in person. I left her alone Wednesday. Sent her flowers yesterday and she texted me and said she loved me and thought the flowers made her smile. Today she says she wants to work on herself and she loves me and wishes me the best.
Don’t ask the question if you don’t want the answer, or would be hurt by the answer. This is no different than guys asking if their dick is bigger than an ex or something. Guys get really hurt when a woman is honest…so just don’t ask the question. If he just threw a comment out there blindly and unprovoked that you should lose weight, then that would be something to be more upset over. However, you asked, he was honest, but tactful (he said he was still attracted to you), so at worst, you should feel neutral towards him.
You and your husband may love each other very much but that doesn't change the fact that he's either asexual or gay. You can't counsel it away and he can't either. You need to do what you need to do to accept this and move on.
There is someone out there who will love you, body and soul, but this guy ain't it.
Girl, think ahead and stop digging your feet, Jesus! This guy IS THREATENING your life. Call the cops, don't act like you know and let them take you out if the house, get your family and hide somewhere if it's a real possibility that he will do harm. Canada is bug and he doesn't know shit. Take a hotel room or whatever until you find a solution.
Ya because electronic banking is so rare now… if you do taxes together and have bank accounts together and aren’t a complete idiot there is no blind trust. You can be on each others credit cards and see statements too if you spend more than an hour.
It is called laziness on your part if you can’t do this basic thing. Blind trust… what a joke
I was 23 she was 28
As a 35yo dude I can straight up tell u I have forgotten my own age plenty of times, the most recent I was on the phone with a government department and told the lady I was 34 then had to do the math in my head and correct myself.
It happens
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You dump him, straight up. Don't waste your time on people that don't deserve you. It's a hot pill to swallow but self respect is a thing. I wouldn't ever trust my partner ever again after this, that's just me though. Would you want to live! like that for the rest of your life? If the answer is no, probably bail.
Naaa, for real, I compartmentalised all that shit a long time ago.
Not lying, I have really good and close friends that are 20 years younger – really beautiful women, I see them as people I have to look after, like family.
Some of them are the daughters of friends, so there is a line there that I would never cross. I am the trusted guy purely because if I was ever creepy with even one young lady, all the young ladies I know would know about it within 45 seconds.
And also – I had such a fucking awesome youth, there is nothing I didn't do in the 90's.
So I have no ambitions to seduce a younger lady.
Don't get me wrong, I love taking them out to dinner, and to exhibit the manners of a gentleman, and to just be there to listen to their mad stories.
I guess I act like a nightclub bouncer, protect them and pay for dinner.
I really relish the friendships I have, all of them, with all kinds of amazing and truly beautiful people.
I am just really in love and lust with my own life partner.
I really don't want or need to objectify my friends.
I mean – the closest it gets it when they rock up for chicken wings and beers and the skirt is too short. I'll drag the table between us so I'm not distracted by some sexy legs. I like being the genuine guy more than the horny old wolf, I guess.
Maybe I just grew up.
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sounds like a pretty bad relationship
It was an ex but someone I've known for 20+ years. I see this person maybe 2-3 times a year. Like I said, she's fully aware of this person. Like you said, its a bad look.
We have chatted briefly but I haven't really had an opportunity to explain myself. Tuesday she said she loved me and wanted to talk in person. I left her alone Wednesday. Sent her flowers yesterday and she texted me and said she loved me and thought the flowers made her smile. Today she says she wants to work on herself and she loves me and wishes me the best.
STD test
Don’t ask the question if you don’t want the answer, or would be hurt by the answer. This is no different than guys asking if their dick is bigger than an ex or something. Guys get really hurt when a woman is honest…so just don’t ask the question. If he just threw a comment out there blindly and unprovoked that you should lose weight, then that would be something to be more upset over. However, you asked, he was honest, but tactful (he said he was still attracted to you), so at worst, you should feel neutral towards him.
You and your husband may love each other very much but that doesn't change the fact that he's either asexual or gay. You can't counsel it away and he can't either. You need to do what you need to do to accept this and move on.
There is someone out there who will love you, body and soul, but this guy ain't it.
you sure they dont grow faster that way? /j
Doesn’t like me more than casually. Obviously.
Girl, think ahead and stop digging your feet, Jesus! This guy IS THREATENING your life. Call the cops, don't act like you know and let them take you out if the house, get your family and hide somewhere if it's a real possibility that he will do harm. Canada is bug and he doesn't know shit. Take a hotel room or whatever until you find a solution.
Ya because electronic banking is so rare now… if you do taxes together and have bank accounts together and aren’t a complete idiot there is no blind trust. You can be on each others credit cards and see statements too if you spend more than an hour.
It is called laziness on your part if you can’t do this basic thing. Blind trust… what a joke
I agree. He’s just trying to make it ok
He already did.
Still, the same issues will occur. it doesn't matter what gender they are.
Tell your wife to get a job, and stop having kids if you can't support them.