Apples to Oranges my man. From this description they were literally trying to sexually touch her it wasn't him accidentally brushing his hand against her and that was it. Now I never said they were a bad person. They weren't even awake. It's not their fault it happened but it is their responsibility to find a ways to stop it.
What your limit? What if they starting putting their fingers inside of her? Should she just deal?
When you have a issue that harms another person it's your jobs to deal with it even if it's not something your doing on purpose.
They aren't are bad person and I'm glad that recognize that it okay for their partner to not want to be assaulted.
No, neither scenario is good. Honestly, the fact that he talks so much about her and no one else at work would be worrisome to me if I were in your shoes.
Here is a personal story as to why I feel this way. A few years back my husband (then bf) started working for a new company and within a month started coming home talking about a new friend at work. He would tell me that they would take breaks and lunch together, message throughout the day (they worked in different department), and then eventually started texting and calling on the phone outside of work. I wasn’t bothered by any of it, because he acted like he would have with any new male friend – factual no “gushing”. He also actively tried to organize a meet up between all of us. Let me tell you, I had absolutely nothing in common with this woman, but my husband still wanted me to met her because they were friends and I was his gf and important to him. He wanted her to meet the “important people” in his life.
Honestly, maybe you should just flat out ask him why he talks about her so much; why no one else ever seems to come up in conversation.
The only way to restore faith and trust in your partner is through honesty. If he's being honest with you then that shouldn't worry him. If he has something to hide, that's when liars project and try to make you feel like you're in the wrong.
I don’t understand the meanness towards me. I am owning up to my mistakes. I am taking steps like therapy. The advice I asked is if it is possible to mend a relationship.
She’s still friends with a guy she used to fuck and have a romantic interest in. It’s just plain naivety and ignorance to think that she was wouldn’t entertain something with him again given the opportunity.
From what I gathered from OP’s post, it HER always reaching out to him, asking how he’s been. The only reason she probably doesn’t have him right now is because he doesn’t want her.
i’ll explain on here to give others a chance to read if they’re interested but i am also comfortable chatting privately. we had a conversation earlier tonight and he admitted that he is not as into this relationship as before. not because of me or our relationship in general because he says both are perfect, but he rushed into our relationship soon after his old one ended and he’s been considering if he would be happier single or with me since i do make him happy. we are both so young and it’s completely understandable where he’s coming from. i’ve been feeling that way at points too, wondering what i would be like as a person if i had more time to be on my own, because i too got out of a serious relationship right before we met. it’s starting to feel like right person wrong time, but i’m just confused on how i feel about all of this. we’re taking the weekend to think on it and i just don’t know what i want.
Your wife does not love you. I’m sorry… but love happens even in difficult situations. She unilaterally made a decision with no regards to you. This was all about her and her feelings. That’s not love. Sometimes love doesn’t feel good. My husband and my relationship is not as perfect as you stated yours was and while I may feel hurt about this situation (which we were contacted by one of his exes for paternity.. and I had no intentions of leaving either way the test came back), it’s not a reason to just call it quits. Call me traditional, but when I make a vow, I mean them.
As for advice, I have none, but to protect yourself legally. Obviously promises don’t mean much to your wife if she’s breaking the most important one.
Sounds like she's already emotionally cheating on you with her friend if she hasnt already physically cheated.
There's a reason why a popular advice for people new to threesomes and polygamy is that the third person should be someone outside of your friend group
Not to mention the whole year he didn’t tell you. That’s choosing every day, for a full year, not to say anything… so every day he chose not to tell you was a lie in your relationship…
Gaslighting is not a defensive mechanism. It's coincides with an abusive tactic to make the victim doubt their reality.
And you almost acted upon cheating when you were drunk with this said friend. Unless you're polyamourous and view relationships differently, it's a disaster in the making for a monogamous relationship. What's not to say you won't act on those feelings later in life? You almost did it once, next time you might a more liquored courage.
I don't know what any of those lbs numbers mean, but there's nothing wrong with keeping in shape. It's always better to maintain a good figure than to get fat and then have to lose a lot of weight because things got out of control.
Kindly, you sound really sheltered/naive
Never ever let another woman live! with you and your husband.
He seems like a hopeless case to me.
Apples to Oranges my man. From this description they were literally trying to sexually touch her it wasn't him accidentally brushing his hand against her and that was it. Now I never said they were a bad person. They weren't even awake. It's not their fault it happened but it is their responsibility to find a ways to stop it.
What your limit? What if they starting putting their fingers inside of her? Should she just deal?
When you have a issue that harms another person it's your jobs to deal with it even if it's not something your doing on purpose.
They aren't are bad person and I'm glad that recognize that it okay for their partner to not want to be assaulted.
No, neither scenario is good. Honestly, the fact that he talks so much about her and no one else at work would be worrisome to me if I were in your shoes.
Here is a personal story as to why I feel this way. A few years back my husband (then bf) started working for a new company and within a month started coming home talking about a new friend at work. He would tell me that they would take breaks and lunch together, message throughout the day (they worked in different department), and then eventually started texting and calling on the phone outside of work. I wasn’t bothered by any of it, because he acted like he would have with any new male friend – factual no “gushing”. He also actively tried to organize a meet up between all of us. Let me tell you, I had absolutely nothing in common with this woman, but my husband still wanted me to met her because they were friends and I was his gf and important to him. He wanted her to meet the “important people” in his life.
Honestly, maybe you should just flat out ask him why he talks about her so much; why no one else ever seems to come up in conversation.
Not at all.
The only way to restore faith and trust in your partner is through honesty. If he's being honest with you then that shouldn't worry him. If he has something to hide, that's when liars project and try to make you feel like you're in the wrong.
I think this should've been discussed before starting the relationship. It's good that you want to talk to him now and see where you both stand.
Is it narco related?
I don’t understand the meanness towards me. I am owning up to my mistakes. I am taking steps like therapy. The advice I asked is if it is possible to mend a relationship.
She’s still friends with a guy she used to fuck and have a romantic interest in. It’s just plain naivety and ignorance to think that she was wouldn’t entertain something with him again given the opportunity.
From what I gathered from OP’s post, it HER always reaching out to him, asking how he’s been. The only reason she probably doesn’t have him right now is because he doesn’t want her.
That sounds like weird sociopath behavior where he didn't know how to act so he did what he thinks and it looked really weird.
Are u sure you are both super into monogamy? Or is he just agreeing w you? Did u ask him first and he agreed or does he have his own personality.
I find this behavior weird a f because it doesn't fit.
i’ll explain on here to give others a chance to read if they’re interested but i am also comfortable chatting privately. we had a conversation earlier tonight and he admitted that he is not as into this relationship as before. not because of me or our relationship in general because he says both are perfect, but he rushed into our relationship soon after his old one ended and he’s been considering if he would be happier single or with me since i do make him happy. we are both so young and it’s completely understandable where he’s coming from. i’ve been feeling that way at points too, wondering what i would be like as a person if i had more time to be on my own, because i too got out of a serious relationship right before we met. it’s starting to feel like right person wrong time, but i’m just confused on how i feel about all of this. we’re taking the weekend to think on it and i just don’t know what i want.
Tell her you aren’t interested. Honesty works.
Missed that bit out, something i have also put forward but has been meet with the same as above
Just don't.
You already know.
Your wife does not love you. I’m sorry… but love happens even in difficult situations. She unilaterally made a decision with no regards to you. This was all about her and her feelings. That’s not love. Sometimes love doesn’t feel good. My husband and my relationship is not as perfect as you stated yours was and while I may feel hurt about this situation (which we were contacted by one of his exes for paternity.. and I had no intentions of leaving either way the test came back), it’s not a reason to just call it quits. Call me traditional, but when I make a vow, I mean them.
As for advice, I have none, but to protect yourself legally. Obviously promises don’t mean much to your wife if she’s breaking the most important one.
Sounds like she's already emotionally cheating on you with her friend if she hasnt already physically cheated.
There's a reason why a popular advice for people new to threesomes and polygamy is that the third person should be someone outside of your friend group
Sorry but your boyfriend is super immature and a little gross.
Not to mention the whole year he didn’t tell you. That’s choosing every day, for a full year, not to say anything… so every day he chose not to tell you was a lie in your relationship…
Gaslighting is not a defensive mechanism. It's coincides with an abusive tactic to make the victim doubt their reality.
And you almost acted upon cheating when you were drunk with this said friend. Unless you're polyamourous and view relationships differently, it's a disaster in the making for a monogamous relationship. What's not to say you won't act on those feelings later in life? You almost did it once, next time you might a more liquored courage.
I don't know what any of those lbs numbers mean, but there's nothing wrong with keeping in shape. It's always better to maintain a good figure than to get fat and then have to lose a lot of weight because things got out of control.
Ask your wife to have lunch with you at work.
Call her say hey can you grab a few burgers and drink come have lunch with me
Start inviting her to lunch.
Also is tour assistant married or a boyfriend?
If she is or does tell your wife…
Spend more time with tour wife It will help her see nothings going on.
And if you have out of town stuff always bring wife.
Saves the arguments..and devorce.
What is your gut saying? Don't listen to your heart(it always puts us wrong). Listen to your gut. It's never wrong.