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Sounds like counseling is needed of some sort. For him and his loss. And you dealing with all of this.
Huge ball of complicated that I don't think any answers here can touch.
Definitely I think something you two can work through though.
Being so comfortable with each other already, how can that be addressed?
It simply cannot. Not much you can do on your end. It's mainly on her.
she feels that a commitment to explore a romantic relationship might need to include passion and that spark
You only create passion and a spark with intense sexual tension. You two have a platonic relationship and more importantly started off as a platonic relationship so that makes it harder to shift.
However, she’s mentioned that she has some hesitation because she could see potential with other people, but recognizes that there is so much alignment in our lives that she would not want to jeopardize our status.
This is a very sensible mating strategy but understand if you just hang back and be the “backup” it will just prolong whatever you seek out of this.
Of course, I am more than willing to provide time and space for her to work through a decision
Don't just stand around while waiting, you should be exploring opinions as well. You've already put the motion on the table and been quite clear with her.
notion of not being a clear choice definitely does bring up anxiety and insecurity on my end
My dude, you're not the clear choice, you're the backup/safety net. I've been that guy, you dont want to be that guy.
perhaps an opportunity for each other to explore elsewhere without commitment or guilt is the best way moving forward?
Yes. You're very close to being that guy she “settled for”.
Perhaps there is a better way to approach this, or maybe a perspective that I am not seeing.
You've basically done everything you need to on your end. The standard procedure of transitioning a friendship to romantic one is to let time past and then when you meet again you “renegotiate” the terms of your “relationship”.
You're literally already done this successfully and it turns out there's no spark. So get out and start new relationships, yes its annoying and tedious but your current situation isn't ideal.
You're presently the backup guy while she shops around some more. You have to decide if that position is agreeable with you.
She will always be in a bad spot. There will never be a good time to free yourself.
TBH, why did you ask if you didn’t want an answer? You invited him to comment on your weight then got mad when he did.
Yikes this dude is super ins3cure and controlling. You seeing a therapist is like you seeing a gyno, none of his fucking business. And the fact he doesn't want you talk8ng about your relationship to outsiders is a big red flag.
Some people are so completely over with what once was when they finally agree to go separate ways, that emotionally they are ready to date again within a week.
Others need a few weeks or a month or so.
I see nothing strange with starting a relationship with someone who's been single for half a year.
You sent this via TEXT?
I am on a laptop and could not wade through all of that rambling.
I scanned it and it seems absolutely ridiculous to even think of continuing the relationship under these circumstances. It is awful. Why the fuck are you trying to perpetuate this thing??????????????????????????
Do her a favor and break up. Then she’ll be rid of you.
I mean, this is the kind of guy he is. Are you cool with that or no?
What are the things you suggest to do? You say she wants bars or clubs, you hate it, fair. What are your suggestions?
I think you need to start putting a cost on her when you make these changes. Some people have insatiable need to keep pushing you in the direction they want. It won't change unless you put a cost on it.
So as an example, you are willing to cancel plans with your friends but she is going to have to cancel something she likes to spend that time with you. Once there's a cost associated she will quickly stop always asking.
Otherwise it will never stop.
As someone with a medical condition myself this breaks my heart. I’ve seen your comment about not thinking it was too much of a problem because it was only one pill a day. Well I have to inject every two weeks and without this I’d have fatigue/pain/stiffness and everything else on top without it. When I’m struggling I only manage to get the basics done and sometime that only means making sure my child is sorted and everything else falls off the wagon. Without proper management it could get worse for me and I’m sure this is the same for your wife. Just think what it will be like for your child seeing their dad doing so little and complaining while she struggles. You might not understand it so why not just educate yourself so you better understand because I can tell you this while her physical health is declining so will her mental health which will cause more issues.