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Let him break up with you. If his ego is so frail that you have to “let him win” then he is not exactly a man. Real men want a partner in life. They want someone who contributes equally when making plans and setting goals. When he says that you are not feminine when you voice your opinion, he is deflecting. He really means that his masculinity is interpreted by him as having power and control over you. He is manipulating and gaslighting you. This is not the future you want.
The downside on this plan is that you’ll be putting your relationships on hold waiting for him. With a strong possibility he might not return. Odds are he won’t.
Also if you do end up together again, how secure would you feel that he didn’t value you strongly enough before …
Recipe for disaster. Just find yourself another guy who doesn’t have that wanderlust.
Thank you for the reply! Is it insecure? I just don’t wanna date someone who parties all the time and does a bunch of drugs and is unproductive , I don’t think that’s a insecurity.
She doesn’t do those things and doesn’t like to but based on her friends behavior I feel like she could be pressured into it
Stop making excuses for him. It’s weird. Plain and simple. You’re 3 weeks in, cut your losses. Well, maybe you’re up for a project, I dunno. If so, stick around. Good luck.
Was her profile set to be looking for women? Surely she'd have shown you it immediately if that was true.
If is it a MMF threesome you told her you wanted?
Either way she could have shown you her matches and any conversations she had with people on there. Because they should all be concerning a threesome.
I'd also expect that he photos would contain at least one of both of you as a couple.
I'd watch where you step. Because I getting a whiff of bullshit.
Damn maybe you shouldn’t have broken up with them idk like only advice i can give is not do it again and try to work out your hurt feelings with then
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Let him break up with you. If his ego is so frail that you have to “let him win” then he is not exactly a man. Real men want a partner in life. They want someone who contributes equally when making plans and setting goals. When he says that you are not feminine when you voice your opinion, he is deflecting. He really means that his masculinity is interpreted by him as having power and control over you. He is manipulating and gaslighting you. This is not the future you want.
It’s petty and immature. Punishing someone is stupid and you should just sit down and talk about your problems
The downside on this plan is that you’ll be putting your relationships on hold waiting for him. With a strong possibility he might not return. Odds are he won’t.
Also if you do end up together again, how secure would you feel that he didn’t value you strongly enough before …
Recipe for disaster. Just find yourself another guy who doesn’t have that wanderlust.
Thank you for the reply! Is it insecure? I just don’t wanna date someone who parties all the time and does a bunch of drugs and is unproductive , I don’t think that’s a insecurity.
She doesn’t do those things and doesn’t like to but based on her friends behavior I feel like she could be pressured into it
Stop making excuses for him. It’s weird. Plain and simple. You’re 3 weeks in, cut your losses. Well, maybe you’re up for a project, I dunno. If so, stick around. Good luck.
Something tells me she cheated with someone close to family and doesn’t want to disclose it to your dad..
She's 31 posting this garbage ? Most 18 year Olds wouldn't even do this
Go talk to the other mom.
It doesn't matter if they did anything or not. He lied to you, he betrayed you. That's all the information you need to end this relationship.
Is your fiance ex military? He sounds like a giant bundle of toxic machoness.