You’re 18, these are high school relationships. I’d highly recommend, even if you’re super excited on new relationship energy, slow down! No one is in love one month in, let alone at the very beginning. At one month how many dates have you even been on? And don’t be cuddling and love bombing and drooling over someone you are just getting to know. These guys are also teenagers, and are completely thrown for a loop when you are all over them so fast. Date the next one. Don’t even consider it a relationship for a month or two and several dates.
No advice just a question, why are you still even entertaining this dude? You say your cool if you guys don't get back together but your begging him like what you are saying isn't adding up and contradicting each other.
I had 3 kids by 21 and the first 2 before I was 19. Let me tell you, nobody took advantage of me. I was as aware as a teenage girl can be. Of course he has to pay child support but he doesn’t have to put up with her. I know I wasn’t exactly easy to get along with for my teenage husband. You go on as if she’s somehow a victim.
Ask your Dad how God could allow that guy to rape the 13 year old TWO THOUSAND times. Ask him how god can allow young children to be raped and killed. I could go on and on. I was raised Catholic and still want to believe in God, but it's very hot.
Every relationship ends til one doesn’t. And that often means that someone has to move out of a shared space.
Since the moving after a breakup seems to be your biggest concern, why not think about what that would look like. You both could set aside some $$ to serve as an “breakup move fund”. Or she may not be concerned about it and has money of her own or some other backup plan.
At 22, people don’t usually have a lot of stuff to have to move. I moved cross country a couple times with just my car when I was in my mid 20’s. Besides clothes, there’s not much she should have to bring if you’re already down there getting established with a place.
I think there are other more important things to be discussing though before living together.
Like…will she find a job before or after moving? Will she have enough savings to be paying her share or the bills from day one? Or will she have a 30 day grace period to find work? Or….?
How will bills be split?
How will house chores be split?
How often will each of you expect to be able to go “home”?
Some “men” really hate a fully developed frontal lobe.
You’re 18, these are high school relationships. I’d highly recommend, even if you’re super excited on new relationship energy, slow down! No one is in love one month in, let alone at the very beginning. At one month how many dates have you even been on? And don’t be cuddling and love bombing and drooling over someone you are just getting to know. These guys are also teenagers, and are completely thrown for a loop when you are all over them so fast. Date the next one. Don’t even consider it a relationship for a month or two and several dates.
Hahaha me too!!
No advice just a question, why are you still even entertaining this dude? You say your cool if you guys don't get back together but your begging him like what you are saying isn't adding up and contradicting each other.
I had 3 kids by 21 and the first 2 before I was 19. Let me tell you, nobody took advantage of me. I was as aware as a teenage girl can be. Of course he has to pay child support but he doesn’t have to put up with her. I know I wasn’t exactly easy to get along with for my teenage husband. You go on as if she’s somehow a victim.
34 years old saying this kinda shit btw lol
Ask your Dad how God could allow that guy to rape the 13 year old TWO THOUSAND times. Ask him how god can allow young children to be raped and killed. I could go on and on. I was raised Catholic and still want to believe in God, but it's very hot.
She sound more like a pain then a partner !
It sounds like you're single as it is – you'll be better off alone.
Tell her if she feels nothing, that's fine. You're done, she needs to leave the flat and she's off your insurance.
You deserve better than a free loader who contributes nothing , emotionally or otherwise, to your relationship.
Every relationship ends til one doesn’t. And that often means that someone has to move out of a shared space.
Since the moving after a breakup seems to be your biggest concern, why not think about what that would look like. You both could set aside some $$ to serve as an “breakup move fund”. Or she may not be concerned about it and has money of her own or some other backup plan.
At 22, people don’t usually have a lot of stuff to have to move. I moved cross country a couple times with just my car when I was in my mid 20’s. Besides clothes, there’s not much she should have to bring if you’re already down there getting established with a place.
I think there are other more important things to be discussing though before living together.
Like…will she find a job before or after moving? Will she have enough savings to be paying her share or the bills from day one? Or will she have a 30 day grace period to find work? Or….?
How will bills be split?
How will house chores be split?
How often will each of you expect to be able to go “home”?