I honestly wouldn't definitively tell you whether to keep them around or not because telling someone to ditch a friendship is a big deal and I'm not in a place that I think I should do that.
I reckon I know how I'd respond to that situation myself but it's very different when in that situation.
If you think you're done with them, then it's fine to be done and walk away. Nothing wrong with that.
If you want to try and maintain the friendship then being reaaallly direct is probably a good thing. The kind of time where he shits on a situation and you turn around and go “THAT! That is EXACTLY what I was talking about you [insert flavourable words here]” Just chapter and verse him when he pulls that, don't give quarter.
When you do that, you'll probably be able to glean a lot of information on how he responds. Because he's either doing it deliberately, which is really shit, or he's genuinely clueless to what he's doing.
If he's clueless, fair chance he'll be confused but hopefully take it on board in the long term. If he's doing it deliberately, he'll possibly try and weasle out “ah mate, I was just trying to help” or similar defensive response.
The secret option number 3, and I've seen it myself, is that some friends can be weirdly protective ot the point of almost ownership. As if they're doing you a favour keeping you from other people. That's more of an odd one.
A lot of people who have made this statement have been completely wrong. Not saying that you're wrong, but based on the information you currently have you cannot rule out the possibility that the child is not yours.
Could definitely be the anti-baby pill messing with her emotions – the same thing happened to an ex of mine and it changed her whole personality. It should settle down after a bit.
Yeah, I sort of agree with you. Have an ex who acted the same way and it started to feel kind of insulting like I was just a thing. Kinda like “I don’t want to hear you talk, where’s the dick” sort of thing.
He’s better off without you
I honestly wouldn't definitively tell you whether to keep them around or not because telling someone to ditch a friendship is a big deal and I'm not in a place that I think I should do that.
I reckon I know how I'd respond to that situation myself but it's very different when in that situation.
If you think you're done with them, then it's fine to be done and walk away. Nothing wrong with that.
If you want to try and maintain the friendship then being reaaallly direct is probably a good thing. The kind of time where he shits on a situation and you turn around and go “THAT! That is EXACTLY what I was talking about you [insert flavourable words here]” Just chapter and verse him when he pulls that, don't give quarter.
When you do that, you'll probably be able to glean a lot of information on how he responds. Because he's either doing it deliberately, which is really shit, or he's genuinely clueless to what he's doing.
If he's clueless, fair chance he'll be confused but hopefully take it on board in the long term. If he's doing it deliberately, he'll possibly try and weasle out “ah mate, I was just trying to help” or similar defensive response.
The secret option number 3, and I've seen it myself, is that some friends can be weirdly protective ot the point of almost ownership. As if they're doing you a favour keeping you from other people. That's more of an odd one.
rolls eyes
Can’t imagine why a man dating someone old enough to be his daughter is not committing to future plans. So unclear why that is
Yeah. I am sure it is mine
A lot of people who have made this statement have been completely wrong. Not saying that you're wrong, but based on the information you currently have you cannot rule out the possibility that the child is not yours.
Could definitely be the anti-baby pill messing with her emotions – the same thing happened to an ex of mine and it changed her whole personality. It should settle down after a bit.
You're not leaving her with nothing, you're leaving her with 10k less debt… Assuming you don't have a prenup
Yeah, I sort of agree with you. Have an ex who acted the same way and it started to feel kind of insulting like I was just a thing. Kinda like “I don’t want to hear you talk, where’s the dick” sort of thing.