I see where his father is coming from, but I feel he is being to harsh. I believe you that your illness is not something to joke around with so I think you should very much well look into a part time job or some live! work. I feel like this will establish a middle line between his father just to prove him wrong. Like a type of agreement. Try it out, earn his respect and enjoy it in the process. Maybe it will even bring you closer with your bf, I grew up with very strict parents so I see why he is different around his parents.
Stop with the whole “I’ll look desperate” thing. It’s 2022, girls ask guys out all the time. Tbh most guys I’ve talked to about this think it’s a turn on for the girl to ask them out, it shows her confidence and takes a lot of the pressure off him.
We can’t give you an exact 100% foolproof explanation of what’s going on. You’ll never know until you ask. Ask him out
Toxic relationships are so difficult to get out of for a reason, in some cases it takes time for them to mentally come around to the realisation they can't and shouldn't put up with it anymore.
I hope he realises he deserves a hell of a lot more than what he's got.
Do what you can to be a great friend. Be uplifting. You'll likely end up feeling a bit frustrated at some point, which is fine. You just have to make sure you have your own outlet as well. Look after yourself too.
There also may be more appropriate subreddits like r/ToxicRelationships. There might be some members on there who are more equipped to give you advice on how best to support your friend.
Good luck! I wish you and your friend the best. I truly hope he's able to leave the situation.
Deal with the separation and other peoples meaningless views. It’s better than being with a man who slaps you around and brings his awful mother into your business.
Why don’t you actually go listen to your partners music and have them listen to yours and see how much more appreciated you feel afterwards and th
hahah no thanks. I'm completely happy in my relationship and we do what works for us. That's why I'm not posting here for advice about it.
Still not fucking getting it hey? My way works for me. Maybe it wouldn't work for you, that's fine. But it works for us and we're not lacking in appreciation of each other in any way.
Your way is not working. That's why you're posting here. Do not tell me my relationship should be more like yours, because your way is not working.
He doesn’t trust you and this is a ridiculous boundary for him to set. You can’t control what people do around you, sure, but that doesn’t mean you have to avoid going place’s because of it. My husband goes to bars with his friends and I’ve literally never wondered if the women there are going to do something to him. Your boyfriend is controlling.
Not going out to bars shaking your ass until 4am every weekend is different then going out to a bar for your friends bday that he's invited too but cant go to.
I'm all for not partying without your SO but this sounds toxic.
Yeah. The thing that gets me the most about this is that if it was true (which we know now it wasn’t) then your sister reported your girlfriend’s gang rape, not her cheating on you. A gang rape that none of the 9 girls tried to stop, allegedly. Your sister should have been horrified, and her first question should have been if your girlfriend was ok.
Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply, I ended up deleting my post as I felt silly about it, but I'm so glad I got this reply. You are right, I do know the answers to those questions, and I do feel he understands how I operate too. You have helped reassure me a lot and bring up good points too – I'll discuss with him some more tonight. Thank you!
Thank you this is good advice, although she hasn’t mentioned to him that she knows.
I see where his father is coming from, but I feel he is being to harsh. I believe you that your illness is not something to joke around with so I think you should very much well look into a part time job or some live! work. I feel like this will establish a middle line between his father just to prove him wrong. Like a type of agreement. Try it out, earn his respect and enjoy it in the process. Maybe it will even bring you closer with your bf, I grew up with very strict parents so I see why he is different around his parents.
Stop with the whole “I’ll look desperate” thing. It’s 2022, girls ask guys out all the time. Tbh most guys I’ve talked to about this think it’s a turn on for the girl to ask them out, it shows her confidence and takes a lot of the pressure off him.
We can’t give you an exact 100% foolproof explanation of what’s going on. You’ll never know until you ask. Ask him out
Very stupid
Toxic relationships are so difficult to get out of for a reason, in some cases it takes time for them to mentally come around to the realisation they can't and shouldn't put up with it anymore.
I hope he realises he deserves a hell of a lot more than what he's got.
Do what you can to be a great friend. Be uplifting. You'll likely end up feeling a bit frustrated at some point, which is fine. You just have to make sure you have your own outlet as well. Look after yourself too.
There also may be more appropriate subreddits like r/ToxicRelationships. There might be some members on there who are more equipped to give you advice on how best to support your friend.
Good luck! I wish you and your friend the best. I truly hope he's able to leave the situation.
Deal with the separation and other peoples meaningless views. It’s better than being with a man who slaps you around and brings his awful mother into your business.
Is that all you want out of life?
I didn’t think so.
Please be very careful. the most dangerous time for a woman is when she's trying to leave an abusive relationship.
Why don’t you actually go listen to your partners music and have them listen to yours and see how much more appreciated you feel afterwards and th
hahah no thanks. I'm completely happy in my relationship and we do what works for us. That's why I'm not posting here for advice about it.
Still not fucking getting it hey? My way works for me. Maybe it wouldn't work for you, that's fine. But it works for us and we're not lacking in appreciation of each other in any way.
Your way is not working. That's why you're posting here. Do not tell me my relationship should be more like yours, because your way is not working.
Even if this peice of fanfiction is true , how is it ok to almost murder someone?
He doesn’t trust you and this is a ridiculous boundary for him to set. You can’t control what people do around you, sure, but that doesn’t mean you have to avoid going place’s because of it. My husband goes to bars with his friends and I’ve literally never wondered if the women there are going to do something to him. Your boyfriend is controlling.
Not going out to bars shaking your ass until 4am every weekend is different then going out to a bar for your friends bday that he's invited too but cant go to.
I'm all for not partying without your SO but this sounds toxic.
Mark may believe Sami should divorce Tom and leave him to his own devices
I mean…. she should. He spent years upon years, cheating on her with multiple affair, risking her health and showing he has zero respect for her.
She needs to grow a backbone. His accident is almost too good to be true; karma came back to bite him on the ass.
Yeah. The thing that gets me the most about this is that if it was true (which we know now it wasn’t) then your sister reported your girlfriend’s gang rape, not her cheating on you. A gang rape that none of the 9 girls tried to stop, allegedly. Your sister should have been horrified, and her first question should have been if your girlfriend was ok.
What if YOU stepped on it or kicked it ! That’s reckless (and illegal) of him.
Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply, I ended up deleting my post as I felt silly about it, but I'm so glad I got this reply. You are right, I do know the answers to those questions, and I do feel he understands how I operate too. You have helped reassure me a lot and bring up good points too – I'll discuss with him some more tonight. Thank you!
How about locks on the doors?