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I think every single point you listed is a deal-breaker on its own, at least in the long run.
He. Does. Not. Care. At. All. He doesn't give a shit about you, your interests, spending time with you. As long as he still gets what he wants, he won't change. And if he does change (because you don't let him get what he wants), it won't last. Hell no. Unless he's the sole provider for the both of you, then you doing 90% of the household chores sounds somewhat acceptable. But what would happen if you had kids (which he wants)? Also, him easily getting frustrated, how does that show? Does he get loud and yell, does he throw or break things, does he hit things or even you? None of those are things you should tolerate. This is not what sex is. This is him using you as a masturbating tool. Not okay. Once again, he. Does. Not. Care. Not at all. Even if he “is okay” with not having kids now, he will change his mind again. Maybe in 10 years, maybe in 15 or 20. But he will. And then he'll dump you unceremoniously and exchange you for a younger model.
Gee, I can't imagine why your 25M cokehead friend would think your boyfriend is controlling. I'm sure it has nothing to do with wanting you to lose your inhibitions with cocaine or other nude drugs around him.
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I think every single point you listed is a deal-breaker on its own, at least in the long run.
He. Does. Not. Care. At. All. He doesn't give a shit about you, your interests, spending time with you. As long as he still gets what he wants, he won't change. And if he does change (because you don't let him get what he wants), it won't last. Hell no. Unless he's the sole provider for the both of you, then you doing 90% of the household chores sounds somewhat acceptable. But what would happen if you had kids (which he wants)? Also, him easily getting frustrated, how does that show? Does he get loud and yell, does he throw or break things, does he hit things or even you? None of those are things you should tolerate. This is not what sex is. This is him using you as a masturbating tool. Not okay. Once again, he. Does. Not. Care. Not at all. Even if he “is okay” with not having kids now, he will change his mind again. Maybe in 10 years, maybe in 15 or 20. But he will. And then he'll dump you unceremoniously and exchange you for a younger model.
Gee, I can't imagine why your 25M cokehead friend would think your boyfriend is controlling. I'm sure it has nothing to do with wanting you to lose your inhibitions with cocaine or other nude drugs around him.
Your boyfriend is thinking rationally. You're thinking that it would be a fun experience and he's thinking about the negative effects that are possible. He's not controlling, he's being smart.
Bury them both deep in the backyard
I'm just baffled that people are ok being filthy. Is it really such a big deal to ask someone to wash their sheets once/twice a month when I come to visit or to change them with me when I do? Even my gyno said the lack of hygiene he has is a health issue to me & filthy. For my own health that needs to change. God forbid I look after myself and refuse to associate with something I feel compromises my health. Yikes. The bars in hell. To you this isn't a big deal. To me it is. Differences of opinions and lifestyles at work here. Your perspective is right to you and mine to me. I won't lower mine.
We can agree to disagree.
Hey AveFaria, when can you come and lick my boots?
Someone just watched Dead to Me
can i ask how you think i hate disabled people? i am disabled myself.