Stay NC. Focus on moving on and moving forward. He doesn’t love you. That’s not what love looks like. You will find someone better but until then deal with you. Fix your hair. Eat better. Surround yourself with people you know without a shadow of a doubt are in your corner. Take a class. Get busy. Focus on you. The best is coming, this is just a painful transition period. Does it hurt? Like a bitch. But you are going to get through it and over him. You will be ok. I promise. He’s not worth the tears. It doesn’t matter if he was faithful or not. That is in the past. Focus on the future. Who do you want 22year old you to be? Go be her. Forget him. He’s trash. You are a gem. A goddamn shiny bright magical gem. The right guy is going to see it and until then go out with friends. Go to museums. Go out for lunch alone with a book. Treat your self to beautiful underwear JUST FOR YOU. It will get better. It’s always so horrible at first. Trust me though. It does get better. Before you know it you are gonna be happily bouncing on a new cock not even thinking about the tears you wasted on this one. You are going to be more than ok.
how did I cheat when he put his hand on my throat and I pushed him off? Me and this person were friends, that hung out and had a friendship prior to things happening. And why would I automatically assume an invitation from a FRIEND, a platonic friend, would be for sex. The boundaries of me being in a relationship with someone was set. I didn’t put myself in a situation to get assaulted, let alone have someone’s hand on my fucking throat. Someone in the military who’s basically trained to fight.
“I’ve loved the time we’ve spent together, but unfortunately I’m not in a place where I can pursue this relationship anymore. Thank you for all the wonderful memories.”
There’s no nice or easy or conflict avoidant way to break up with someone. Direct, don’t explain your reasoning, fast, and clear.
Yeah his brother is quite a goofy personality, I'm not surprised he didn't think it through before deciding on the gift.
Stay NC. Focus on moving on and moving forward. He doesn’t love you. That’s not what love looks like. You will find someone better but until then deal with you. Fix your hair. Eat better. Surround yourself with people you know without a shadow of a doubt are in your corner. Take a class. Get busy. Focus on you. The best is coming, this is just a painful transition period. Does it hurt? Like a bitch. But you are going to get through it and over him. You will be ok. I promise. He’s not worth the tears. It doesn’t matter if he was faithful or not. That is in the past. Focus on the future. Who do you want 22year old you to be? Go be her. Forget him. He’s trash. You are a gem. A goddamn shiny bright magical gem. The right guy is going to see it and until then go out with friends. Go to museums. Go out for lunch alone with a book. Treat your self to beautiful underwear JUST FOR YOU. It will get better. It’s always so horrible at first. Trust me though. It does get better. Before you know it you are gonna be happily bouncing on a new cock not even thinking about the tears you wasted on this one. You are going to be more than ok.
how did I cheat when he put his hand on my throat and I pushed him off? Me and this person were friends, that hung out and had a friendship prior to things happening. And why would I automatically assume an invitation from a FRIEND, a platonic friend, would be for sex. The boundaries of me being in a relationship with someone was set. I didn’t put myself in a situation to get assaulted, let alone have someone’s hand on my fucking throat. Someone in the military who’s basically trained to fight.
Yes. You are out of line. Way out of line. You do think she’s fat. She’s on birth control and she would know if she’s pregnant. There are other signs.
“I’ve loved the time we’ve spent together, but unfortunately I’m not in a place where I can pursue this relationship anymore. Thank you for all the wonderful memories.”
There’s no nice or easy or conflict avoidant way to break up with someone. Direct, don’t explain your reasoning, fast, and clear.