Yeah I agree…that definitely is shitty, and I think this needs to be something to pay attention too.
And not saying this is the case, but not looking at your messages or responding right away or not knowing what he’s doing leads me to believe that he might be spending time with someone else as well. OP mentions that all she wants is to hear from the most important person to her, but the actions of her BF is makes it seem like it’s not reciprocated…
you agreed you didnt want to get married. the answer to you changing your mind is not just dropping that on your gf expecting her to be all lovey dovey over it, you have to treat her like an actual human being and have a conversation with her about it.
Idk I was still stuck on 23 yr olds trying to give a ride to a 30yr old man boyfriend with no car(it seems) Then the support of the friend hitting on men in relationships but has an issue when the chickens come home to roost… ??♂️
You did nothing wrong. That man was a monster. It is okay to have a lot of complex emotions about it.
Right now you need to focus on you. Find a support group if you can, or a trauma informed therapist. You don't need to go through this alone nor should you.
I am so sorry this happened. You didn't deserve it. You didn't do anything wrong.
I bet you anything he already has someone in mind, which is why he keeps pushing it.
Babes, this isn’t the man for you. Today, it’s threesomes, tomorrow, it’s an open relationship. He will never be satisfied and the fact that he’s trying to put all this on you shows how unimportant you are to him. HIS needs come first. He doesn’t care what that does to you.
You can’t make him happy. Don’t sacrifice YOUR happiness trying.
OK, that's fair. And from a three second phone call, it sounds like she was truthful that she did not speak to him.
It sounds pretty controlling though for neither of you to be allowed to speak to your ex's. Why is that if it isn't a trust or jealousy thing?
Yeah I agree…that definitely is shitty, and I think this needs to be something to pay attention too.
And not saying this is the case, but not looking at your messages or responding right away or not knowing what he’s doing leads me to believe that he might be spending time with someone else as well. OP mentions that all she wants is to hear from the most important person to her, but the actions of her BF is makes it seem like it’s not reciprocated…
you agreed you didnt want to get married. the answer to you changing your mind is not just dropping that on your gf expecting her to be all lovey dovey over it, you have to treat her like an actual human being and have a conversation with her about it.
Idk I was still stuck on 23 yr olds trying to give a ride to a 30yr old man boyfriend with no car(it seems) Then the support of the friend hitting on men in relationships but has an issue when the chickens come home to roost… ??♂️
You did nothing wrong. That man was a monster. It is okay to have a lot of complex emotions about it.
Right now you need to focus on you. Find a support group if you can, or a trauma informed therapist. You don't need to go through this alone nor should you.
I am so sorry this happened. You didn't deserve it. You didn't do anything wrong.
Bob has got to go. This will not end well at all. Neither of them are your friend. Pick your fiancé and move on with your life.
Yes.
No, no, no.
I bet you anything he already has someone in mind, which is why he keeps pushing it.
Babes, this isn’t the man for you. Today, it’s threesomes, tomorrow, it’s an open relationship. He will never be satisfied and the fact that he’s trying to put all this on you shows how unimportant you are to him. HIS needs come first. He doesn’t care what that does to you.
You can’t make him happy. Don’t sacrifice YOUR happiness trying.