heartbreak. I've recently had a chat with her about sexual intimacy and it's brought me a lot closer to her. I'm starting to understand that i need to keep investing in improving the relationship to keep the passion alive.
Well I told him things I actually am interested in and he planned those things so it was a good time. I just brought up future plans and that was just a concern of his and I thought it was odd.
Show her the post if you can't say it out loud. I have been where you are and I had a whole speech/plan to explain what happened but even my scattered description lifted a weight off my shoulders. You don't have to get into minute details , I was petrified of admitting anything, you deservw to talk about it. As a fellow survivor, you can message me to vent about it but I'll be hoping for justice and your healing
honestly I feel that all LDRs without a clear goal of eventual cohabitation (maybe not sharing a house, but sharing a city/postal code, whatever) are doomed to fail.
ultimately the best LDR fades in face of an even humdrum real-life relationship. we're social animals and that dimension of physicality (as well as intimacy) is crucial to our relationships.
if you're not happy, then you're not happy. you do yourself and her no favours by continuing something that is broken.
absence makes the heart grow fonder is usually something like, a trip. you two have been “absent” the whole time.
You just have to really reduce contact, learn to be rude, “sorry, but I can't talk any longer, good bye”- screen your calls and stop being reliable for people who use you emotionally.
You have to accept- people like this won't change…you have no magic words to utter, no magic technique to get them to stop on their own- you have to control them like pests….
No of same sex. Mostly industries that are predominantly male sending crews of 2-4 to work outdoors, stuff like that.
heartbreak. I've recently had a chat with her about sexual intimacy and it's brought me a lot closer to her. I'm starting to understand that i need to keep investing in improving the relationship to keep the passion alive.
Well I told him things I actually am interested in and he planned those things so it was a good time. I just brought up future plans and that was just a concern of his and I thought it was odd.
Shit like this minimizes the true violence and trauma of actual rape.
Yeah, you did something shitty but calling it rape is way out of line.
Show her the post if you can't say it out loud. I have been where you are and I had a whole speech/plan to explain what happened but even my scattered description lifted a weight off my shoulders. You don't have to get into minute details , I was petrified of admitting anything, you deservw to talk about it. As a fellow survivor, you can message me to vent about it but I'll be hoping for justice and your healing
honestly I feel that all LDRs without a clear goal of eventual cohabitation (maybe not sharing a house, but sharing a city/postal code, whatever) are doomed to fail.
ultimately the best LDR fades in face of an even humdrum real-life relationship. we're social animals and that dimension of physicality (as well as intimacy) is crucial to our relationships.
if you're not happy, then you're not happy. you do yourself and her no favours by continuing something that is broken.
absence makes the heart grow fonder is usually something like, a trip. you two have been “absent” the whole time.
You just have to really reduce contact, learn to be rude, “sorry, but I can't talk any longer, good bye”- screen your calls and stop being reliable for people who use you emotionally.
You have to accept- people like this won't change…you have no magic words to utter, no magic technique to get them to stop on their own- you have to control them like pests….
I want to hear the other side of this story.