You two are completely unsuited to each other and you’re both too young to compromise. If you’re miserable and unhappy then you’re not in the right situation. My husband is rather like you while I’m sociable. We met in our 40s so we had a different mindset anyway. He mostly stays home while I go out to play music in Irish folk sessions, I do voluntary work, I knit prolifically too. When I’m not doing that I’m happy to sit at home drinking tea (or wine etc) with him and we put the world to rights. That’s never going to happen for you while you’re in this relationship. I’d advise you to call a halt to it now before any more damage gets done.
The minute he makes his more money on his own and can afford a home, he will want a kid with someone younger. Right now you are providing a lifestyle for him with your financial contribution. He doesn’t want to be a sole provider. He is saving for his future not yours. So don’t make it that comfortable for him. He needs to take over more bills now and you need to contribute to your rainy day / fertility health fund.
Nooo noo, sorry, I didn't mean it to come off that way either. I'm definitely not attacking you. I love what you said, and I was just saying that I'm fine with being called an asshole by others if they can explain to me how I am one. My bad I didn't mean to offend you at all.
I have seen so many couples ruined by a threesome. So many. Is your wife suggesting this for you or is she suggesting it for herself because she wants to get with her bestie? Don’t do something you’re uncomfortable with. Your instincts are telling you to not do this for a reason.
You say the sex happened three years ago and that is when she broke it off??? But they are still talking today??? Get real…..she is still with him too! Dump her!!!
Tell him his dick is small and when he gets upset just say it's a factual observation. I'm sure he won't like that one very much.
In all seriousness tho, these “factual observations” are better left unsaid. You've told him they bother you, so he obviously just doesn't respect you. Maybe tell him about your ED (ONLY if you feel comfortable with that) and tell him that his comments are putting your mental health (and physical health) in jeopardy. If he can't accept that? Show him the door.
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You two are completely unsuited to each other and you’re both too young to compromise. If you’re miserable and unhappy then you’re not in the right situation. My husband is rather like you while I’m sociable. We met in our 40s so we had a different mindset anyway. He mostly stays home while I go out to play music in Irish folk sessions, I do voluntary work, I knit prolifically too. When I’m not doing that I’m happy to sit at home drinking tea (or wine etc) with him and we put the world to rights. That’s never going to happen for you while you’re in this relationship. I’d advise you to call a halt to it now before any more damage gets done.
The minute he makes his more money on his own and can afford a home, he will want a kid with someone younger. Right now you are providing a lifestyle for him with your financial contribution. He doesn’t want to be a sole provider. He is saving for his future not yours. So don’t make it that comfortable for him. He needs to take over more bills now and you need to contribute to your rainy day / fertility health fund.
Nooo noo, sorry, I didn't mean it to come off that way either. I'm definitely not attacking you. I love what you said, and I was just saying that I'm fine with being called an asshole by others if they can explain to me how I am one. My bad I didn't mean to offend you at all.
I have seen so many couples ruined by a threesome. So many. Is your wife suggesting this for you or is she suggesting it for herself because she wants to get with her bestie? Don’t do something you’re uncomfortable with. Your instincts are telling you to not do this for a reason.
You say the sex happened three years ago and that is when she broke it off??? But they are still talking today??? Get real…..she is still with him too! Dump her!!!
Tell him his dick is small and when he gets upset just say it's a factual observation. I'm sure he won't like that one very much.
In all seriousness tho, these “factual observations” are better left unsaid. You've told him they bother you, so he obviously just doesn't respect you. Maybe tell him about your ED (ONLY if you feel comfortable with that) and tell him that his comments are putting your mental health (and physical health) in jeopardy. If he can't accept that? Show him the door.