So she is taking scholarships and grants away from people who may actually need them for a degree that they will actually use and not just get it for the sake of it? She isn’t actually planning on using her degree….because your have too much pride to let her? Man I hope she wakes up before she marries you.
This is the important question. My ex’s mom once introduced me as [ex’s] friend OP. We had been together for like 5 years at that point. My ex jumped in and corrected her with an offended tone.
I don't know where you live!, but in most parts of the world 20 is very young to be thinking about marriage. (In the US people typically don't get married until their late 20s at the earliest in general.) So the fact she is not interested in marriage now doesn't mean she won't be interested in it in the future. But this will probably involve you having to wait at least 8 years.
Why would you buy a house that you can’t afford on 1 of your incomes? You want kids when you’re not contributing to a student loan that’s $800 a month?
She doesn’t get to decide whether or not you get a relationship with your child. The name thing is tricker but I honestly don’t see why it’s such a big deal. It’s common in many cultures so I’d hardly call it non traditional, just not a tradition you’re used to.
The bigger issue (than the name, not the custody) is that you seem to think that marriage boils down to her changing her last name. If that’s all you think of it you shouldn’t marry her or anyone.
I give her the benefit of the doubt. But if she does something like that again, or speaks badly to you, or if you see that she blackmails you with anything, leave her relationship.
You seem to be handling the whole cheating side of things so I won't comment on that.
I would however contact a lawyer and work out what the legal standing is of the content you created together. You wouldn't want to learn that she had legal rights to the content and by deleting it without her consent you've left yourself liable.
Thank you! And tbh those are the things I have been stressing with her.. but she’s just so negative and idk what to do. She’s been improving and that’s why I’m still in this relationship because I see that she’s trying, but whenever she acts like this, it really makes me question if we should continue
You don’t have a kid with someone who just told you his feelings trump yours.
This could be his natural pattern. Or he could have a sleep disorder. Maybe he should be checked for sleep apnea?
So she is taking scholarships and grants away from people who may actually need them for a degree that they will actually use and not just get it for the sake of it? She isn’t actually planning on using her degree….because your have too much pride to let her? Man I hope she wakes up before she marries you.
This is the important question. My ex’s mom once introduced me as [ex’s] friend OP. We had been together for like 5 years at that point. My ex jumped in and corrected her with an offended tone.
I don't know where you live!, but in most parts of the world 20 is very young to be thinking about marriage. (In the US people typically don't get married until their late 20s at the earliest in general.) So the fact she is not interested in marriage now doesn't mean she won't be interested in it in the future. But this will probably involve you having to wait at least 8 years.
Dude. He is the only one who earns.
Why would you buy a house that you can’t afford on 1 of your incomes? You want kids when you’re not contributing to a student loan that’s $800 a month?
Don't slap people Don't drive while high
ESH
You just described a dog. A literal dog can help with that.
She doesn’t get to decide whether or not you get a relationship with your child. The name thing is tricker but I honestly don’t see why it’s such a big deal. It’s common in many cultures so I’d hardly call it non traditional, just not a tradition you’re used to.
The bigger issue (than the name, not the custody) is that you seem to think that marriage boils down to her changing her last name. If that’s all you think of it you shouldn’t marry her or anyone.
I give her the benefit of the doubt. But if she does something like that again, or speaks badly to you, or if you see that she blackmails you with anything, leave her relationship.
You seem to be handling the whole cheating side of things so I won't comment on that.
I would however contact a lawyer and work out what the legal standing is of the content you created together. You wouldn't want to learn that she had legal rights to the content and by deleting it without her consent you've left yourself liable.
Thank you! And tbh those are the things I have been stressing with her.. but she’s just so negative and idk what to do. She’s been improving and that’s why I’m still in this relationship because I see that she’s trying, but whenever she acts like this, it really makes me question if we should continue