The fucking comments here…. husband is being a dick bringing up a 3rd but I am sorry, it is a 100% reasonable thing to want to be able to have unprotected sex with your wife who's had a tubal. And let's be real, to the folks saying he should get a vasectomy, if wife isn't OK with it now, a vasectomy isn't going to change that.
Even if she divorces husband, she needs to address her irrational fear, and the comments here aren't helping by feeding her delusions.
Honestly, my husband has eaten my or my kids' leftovers… and it has ruined our day, too. My hibachi grill steak leftovers from Christmas Eve ended up in the wrong car, and I am still sad. You have a little extra saved, you feel like it's an unexpected win, then somebody with no understanding of your saving it just eats them.
You didn't do it on purpose, but it really sucks. Always ask before eating someone's leftovers, and maybe get your partner a little something special and say sorry.
What would you be waiting for? She broke up with you. Serious question. Are you saying that you want to wait until you graduate and then ask if she wants you to move there?
Hi Op. I think that if you already have doubts you should probably not date him. The age difference is a bit of a problem, because from 22 to 30 there’s a big difference on many, many things. I am almost 29 and I could never date someone younger than 26 because I see them as children.
Do you have any examples of some of the worse situations you've been in that might help people understand the gravity of what you're dealing with? There's a big difference between “people give me weird looks” and “I've gotten my ass beat by a stranger with the wrong idea”. Not to say your situation is even close to the former.
I understand how frustrating that would be. The conversation you need to have right now is about expectation. That means defining what “better” is for both of you, and if those expectations are realistic in your relationship. For a long-term relationship to be successful we need to have shared goals and expectations with our partner. We can feel love differently and have different needs, but both people have to get their needs met.
It’s not your responsibility as a partner to do without to please her, especially if that isn’t reciprocated. Again, it’s okay for her to desire gifts and dates to feel loved. It’s not okay to put a dollar amount on that love.
Sorry I meant skip dating for a while and working on yourself! Dating may have to wait for a little bit. You are young, with kids. You can't navigate this midfield yet – work on yourself and providing a healthy enviroofor your kids. Get your mind happy first, it's the only way you'll have success dating
The thing is, he is very supportive. He has true hope, and lofty idealism. He truly believes I can make a good life for myself, whereas I expect myself not to progress much farther than minimum wage for life. He's a spark of hope for my pessimistic ass, I guess.
I don't know where I want to be, though I get this creeping sensation that once I start university, I'll start to get a starker sense of whether or not this is where I want to be. And by this, I mean, in a relationship with him.
Come on now. Your post largely serves to therapize yourself. You, me, and everyone knows what's really going on. You almost say it in that last paragraph when you're talking about them being poly.
Your husband is “poly” now, you're just gonna be the last person to know. (I put poly in quotations because I think when practiced ethically it's fine, he's just not currently being ethical.)
If he was more interested he will be communicate more and will always have time for you … unfortunately some people just want to be with someone for fun only for their own desires … it’s temporary for them … end it and move on you deserve better .
You are an idiot.
The fucking comments here…. husband is being a dick bringing up a 3rd but I am sorry, it is a 100% reasonable thing to want to be able to have unprotected sex with your wife who's had a tubal. And let's be real, to the folks saying he should get a vasectomy, if wife isn't OK with it now, a vasectomy isn't going to change that.
Even if she divorces husband, she needs to address her irrational fear, and the comments here aren't helping by feeding her delusions.
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Honestly, my husband has eaten my or my kids' leftovers… and it has ruined our day, too. My hibachi grill steak leftovers from Christmas Eve ended up in the wrong car, and I am still sad. You have a little extra saved, you feel like it's an unexpected win, then somebody with no understanding of your saving it just eats them.
You didn't do it on purpose, but it really sucks. Always ask before eating someone's leftovers, and maybe get your partner a little something special and say sorry.
Get the bus or learn to drive. You do sound like a burden tbh.
What would you be waiting for? She broke up with you. Serious question. Are you saying that you want to wait until you graduate and then ask if she wants you to move there?
Hi Op. I think that if you already have doubts you should probably not date him. The age difference is a bit of a problem, because from 22 to 30 there’s a big difference on many, many things. I am almost 29 and I could never date someone younger than 26 because I see them as children.
Do you have any examples of some of the worse situations you've been in that might help people understand the gravity of what you're dealing with? There's a big difference between “people give me weird looks” and “I've gotten my ass beat by a stranger with the wrong idea”. Not to say your situation is even close to the former.
I understand how frustrating that would be. The conversation you need to have right now is about expectation. That means defining what “better” is for both of you, and if those expectations are realistic in your relationship. For a long-term relationship to be successful we need to have shared goals and expectations with our partner. We can feel love differently and have different needs, but both people have to get their needs met.
It’s not your responsibility as a partner to do without to please her, especially if that isn’t reciprocated. Again, it’s okay for her to desire gifts and dates to feel loved. It’s not okay to put a dollar amount on that love.
Again you’re making judgments based off the little context you have from this post, i posted another comment explaining, don’t know if you read it
Sorry I meant skip dating for a while and working on yourself! Dating may have to wait for a little bit. You are young, with kids. You can't navigate this midfield yet – work on yourself and providing a healthy enviroofor your kids. Get your mind happy first, it's the only way you'll have success dating
The thing is, he is very supportive. He has true hope, and lofty idealism. He truly believes I can make a good life for myself, whereas I expect myself not to progress much farther than minimum wage for life. He's a spark of hope for my pessimistic ass, I guess.
I don't know where I want to be, though I get this creeping sensation that once I start university, I'll start to get a starker sense of whether or not this is where I want to be. And by this, I mean, in a relationship with him.
Most everyone who got cheated on probably also thought that their partners are not capable of cheating but it still happened.
Come on now. Your post largely serves to therapize yourself. You, me, and everyone knows what's really going on. You almost say it in that last paragraph when you're talking about them being poly.
Your husband is “poly” now, you're just gonna be the last person to know. (I put poly in quotations because I think when practiced ethically it's fine, he's just not currently being ethical.)
If he was more interested he will be communicate more and will always have time for you … unfortunately some people just want to be with someone for fun only for their own desires … it’s temporary for them … end it and move on you deserve better .
That's in the past.
Why lie in the first place if the story he told is true?