The let her have friends comment was a bit odd to me, but you can break up with anyone for any reason, it's only been 3 months man too much of a headache already. Find someone with similar boundaries to you and view on relationships
His mother has no interest in changing the situation, and he has no interest in going against his mother's wishes. She's going to keep using him and his account unless he's willing to stand up to her and force her to stop (and by force her, I mean take away her ability to do this, not just tell her that he wants her to stop).
You know, he could at least solve the problem of not having access to his own money by just setting up another account for himself at a different bank and only using that account, while his mother keeps using the first account. He still would be responsible for the overdrafts and fees and such, but at least this issue of never having his bank card would be resolved.
Get therapy for your self esteem. It is not your partner’s job to prop up your ego, especially if it requires lying. You say yourself, you are insecure and Lord, you sound it. Work on that.
Would you react the same if the genders were flipped? It's controlling.
The let her have friends comment was a bit odd to me, but you can break up with anyone for any reason, it's only been 3 months man too much of a headache already. Find someone with similar boundaries to you and view on relationships
His mother has no interest in changing the situation, and he has no interest in going against his mother's wishes. She's going to keep using him and his account unless he's willing to stand up to her and force her to stop (and by force her, I mean take away her ability to do this, not just tell her that he wants her to stop).
You know, he could at least solve the problem of not having access to his own money by just setting up another account for himself at a different bank and only using that account, while his mother keeps using the first account. He still would be responsible for the overdrafts and fees and such, but at least this issue of never having his bank card would be resolved.
C’mon man there’s all kinds of sleepers, some can sleep through a lot. Just don’t.
He's exhausted and lashing out. This relationship is both of you holding on when you should both let go.
I don't think you should attempt a course correction. It sounds like whenever you try to suppress your fights instincts you just explode later.
Work on you alone.
Get therapy for your self esteem. It is not your partner’s job to prop up your ego, especially if it requires lying. You say yourself, you are insecure and Lord, you sound it. Work on that.
This is ur life now if u choose to stay with him. Get used to it. Or leave.
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I will babes ?
Lmao I tried so hot not to use it but this is the absolute definition of gaslighting.