As someone who's been type one for 22 years it shouldn't require another person's care realistically? If she is in that bad of condition there is something else going on. Like not taking meds properly or excessive sugar still in her filet somewhere (coffee, pop, specifics snacks or smoothies?)
This is exactly what I did. I knew something was up with my ex. It started with the spidey sense tingling. Then I noticed the incessant texting to “her best friend” which she had never hidden before. Then it was working late. Then work trips. Then there was never a single second that her phone wasn't right there by her. She even used to set it on the floor right outside the shower playing music when she was showering.
I finally decided it was time to snoop. I got on her computer and found a wealth of evidence. Dates, times, texts…everything except pictures. She was having a long term affair with a coworker. I downloaded everything to a thumb drive and waited.
I spent the next week or so questioning her excuses until she was finally backed into a corner and I flat out told her I knew what was going on. She kept denying it. She told me I was crazy. I was imagining things. There was no possible way she would do that to me. She was so convincing. Then I started rattling off specific dates, locations, and messages that were burned into my brain, and that is when her face dropped. She buried her face in her hands and started crying her crocodile tears and begging forgiveness.
All this to say, trust your instincts, but get the proof. Then when you have it, get a lawyer.
You could try harder, specially with setting the tables.
You’ve already have a good learning experience. You don’t want to wash the dishes immediately, she doesn’t want you to leave the dishes unwashed until lunch next day, so you compromised and now you use the dishwasher every night. Repeat that experience.
And it goes both ways, the things you mentioned she does that you don’t like are very reasonable so you shouldn’t think about them as complaining but rather communicating. Just don’t tell them when you’re mad but as a levelheaded conversation.
MY husband has NEVER yelled at me. Married 22 years. Your SO has an anger problem.
Walk away with pride. You are so worth it.
As someone who's been type one for 22 years it shouldn't require another person's care realistically? If she is in that bad of condition there is something else going on. Like not taking meds properly or excessive sugar still in her filet somewhere (coffee, pop, specifics snacks or smoothies?)
This is exactly what I did. I knew something was up with my ex. It started with the spidey sense tingling. Then I noticed the incessant texting to “her best friend” which she had never hidden before. Then it was working late. Then work trips. Then there was never a single second that her phone wasn't right there by her. She even used to set it on the floor right outside the shower playing music when she was showering.
I finally decided it was time to snoop. I got on her computer and found a wealth of evidence. Dates, times, texts…everything except pictures. She was having a long term affair with a coworker. I downloaded everything to a thumb drive and waited.
I spent the next week or so questioning her excuses until she was finally backed into a corner and I flat out told her I knew what was going on. She kept denying it. She told me I was crazy. I was imagining things. There was no possible way she would do that to me. She was so convincing. Then I started rattling off specific dates, locations, and messages that were burned into my brain, and that is when her face dropped. She buried her face in her hands and started crying her crocodile tears and begging forgiveness.
All this to say, trust your instincts, but get the proof. Then when you have it, get a lawyer.
I’m so sorry that happened x
Just make sure any and all kids you have aren’t expected to sleep over. Make sure you are on the same page on such things before even getting married.
You could try harder, specially with setting the tables.
You’ve already have a good learning experience. You don’t want to wash the dishes immediately, she doesn’t want you to leave the dishes unwashed until lunch next day, so you compromised and now you use the dishwasher every night. Repeat that experience.
And it goes both ways, the things you mentioned she does that you don’t like are very reasonable so you shouldn’t think about them as complaining but rather communicating. Just don’t tell them when you’re mad but as a levelheaded conversation.
You know who else is small and helpless? Children.