pack his bags now and say goodbye unless your planning on being his doormat for the rest of your marriage. plus get yourself to the clinic asap, as this probably wasn’t the first time.
You clearly have a lot of shit going on. That's okay. Life is not easy and it's full of ups and downs.
You need to address these things one at a time. A good step would be to stop digging a deeper hole for yourself.
Clearly your home life is not a healthy environment.
What is a home? Its support, love, structure, etc. If you cannot receive that from your home, you need to find alternatives for it.
A good person to look at… is yourself. Love yourself more, okay?
Next… a great replacement, is your friends. Which you've unfortunately isolated yourself from (made your hole deeper). So, please try to reconnect with them, you could use them in your life.
And finally… the best environment for you to dwell in to receive a deep love, is a relationship. Which you are now considering breaking off (digging down deeper).
If your boyfriend accepts these parts of you, and wants to show you a real love. Please do not run from that. You need that in your life. You're not ruining anything by your “bad vibes”… you are burdened and he says he wants to help you carry that.
And when you muster the courage, you do what you can to show your appreciation back for him. If he teaches you how to love, show him what you learnt.
Please don't run from these healthy environments, they're a great place for repair if done correctly.
Yeah, cancel the trip and do not meet him in person for any reason. If you can’t find his license under his legal name in his state, he doesn’t have one.
They are available for the public to verify credentials for a reason. He also should be on other publicly available sites, like the hospital website, healthy grades, find a Doc, etc… (I check the licenses of any professional I use. You want to find out if your Dentist has been sued five times).
A ‘Doctor’ with zero online presence or license is a red flag. As are the expensive gifts and him living out of state. You have no idea who this guy really is. But he isn’t being honest and is coming on really strong.
pack his bags now and say goodbye unless your planning on being his doormat for the rest of your marriage. plus get yourself to the clinic asap, as this probably wasn’t the first time.
If your partner being irrititated in your presence is enough to bring you to tears, you should probably look into therapy for your past trauma.
This is what I see…
You clearly have a lot of shit going on. That's okay. Life is not easy and it's full of ups and downs.
You need to address these things one at a time. A good step would be to stop digging a deeper hole for yourself.
Clearly your home life is not a healthy environment.
What is a home? Its support, love, structure, etc. If you cannot receive that from your home, you need to find alternatives for it.
A good person to look at… is yourself. Love yourself more, okay?
Next… a great replacement, is your friends. Which you've unfortunately isolated yourself from (made your hole deeper). So, please try to reconnect with them, you could use them in your life.
And finally… the best environment for you to dwell in to receive a deep love, is a relationship. Which you are now considering breaking off (digging down deeper).
If your boyfriend accepts these parts of you, and wants to show you a real love. Please do not run from that. You need that in your life. You're not ruining anything by your “bad vibes”… you are burdened and he says he wants to help you carry that.
And when you muster the courage, you do what you can to show your appreciation back for him. If he teaches you how to love, show him what you learnt.
Please don't run from these healthy environments, they're a great place for repair if done correctly.
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No, i dont know thanks though
I think that's a fair assessment. Maybe it's time I man tf up and stand up for myself in that regard.
Yeah, cancel the trip and do not meet him in person for any reason. If you can’t find his license under his legal name in his state, he doesn’t have one.
They are available for the public to verify credentials for a reason. He also should be on other publicly available sites, like the hospital website, healthy grades, find a Doc, etc… (I check the licenses of any professional I use. You want to find out if your Dentist has been sued five times).
A ‘Doctor’ with zero online presence or license is a red flag. As are the expensive gifts and him living out of state. You have no idea who this guy really is. But he isn’t being honest and is coming on really strong.