Stop apologizing- you don’t owe her this. Nor does she deserve one. I was half thinking maybe it was a shock of information she needed to absorb at first and didn’t know how to deal yet – BUT – for her to say you “took it too far and manipulated her kindness” … hot pass for me. You need to leave, get therapy and commit for the long haul and work things out single until you learn to trust and open again. She set you 10 steps back in relationship world and I’m so sorry you have/had to experience that. It’s my belief, a true partner (to you) would not make this in any way about themselves, and this would be a bonding you grow closer over – not be judged against. My heart goes out to you OP.
Stop apologizing- you don’t owe her this. Nor does she deserve one. I was half thinking maybe it was a shock of information she needed to absorb at first and didn’t know how to deal yet – BUT – for her to say you “took it too far and manipulated her kindness” … hard pass for me. You need to leave, get therapy and commit for the long haul and work things out single until you learn to trust and open again. She set you 10 steps back in relationship world and I’m so sorry you have/had to experience that. It’s my belief, a true partner (to you) would not make this in any way about themselves, and this would be a bonding you grow closer over – not be judged against. My heart goes out to you OP.
Trauma is one thing. It's real and effects people deeply. OP is the type of person to self diagnose every mental health problem under the sun from tiktok. She has “being called names” trauma don't you know.
I'd be petty enough to replace the sex lingerie with regular sets like a good caring partner so my partner would have fresh underwear to wear.
Then be all naive like “Oh, I saw you accidentally packed your sex lingerie to visit family! Since you won't be there having sex, you won't need them!”
I mean, it sounds like he was being a dumbass, damaged her property, and she called him on it. That is a fair reaction. If he doesn't want to get called a dumbass he should stop messing around with other people's stuff.
Projecting….that should say enough
No…he will do it again
But should I tell her on phone or face to face? And how should I start the conversation
I dated a guy briefly with a panty fetish definitely wasn't the weirdest I've heard of. Only do it if you are comfortable and okay with it.
Stop apologizing- you don’t owe her this. Nor does she deserve one. I was half thinking maybe it was a shock of information she needed to absorb at first and didn’t know how to deal yet – BUT – for her to say you “took it too far and manipulated her kindness” … hot pass for me. You need to leave, get therapy and commit for the long haul and work things out single until you learn to trust and open again. She set you 10 steps back in relationship world and I’m so sorry you have/had to experience that. It’s my belief, a true partner (to you) would not make this in any way about themselves, and this would be a bonding you grow closer over – not be judged against. My heart goes out to you OP.
Stop apologizing- you don’t owe her this. Nor does she deserve one. I was half thinking maybe it was a shock of information she needed to absorb at first and didn’t know how to deal yet – BUT – for her to say you “took it too far and manipulated her kindness” … hard pass for me. You need to leave, get therapy and commit for the long haul and work things out single until you learn to trust and open again. She set you 10 steps back in relationship world and I’m so sorry you have/had to experience that. It’s my belief, a true partner (to you) would not make this in any way about themselves, and this would be a bonding you grow closer over – not be judged against. My heart goes out to you OP.
Trauma is one thing. It's real and effects people deeply. OP is the type of person to self diagnose every mental health problem under the sun from tiktok. She has “being called names” trauma don't you know.
Wow. What a disgusting POS. I truly hope you don’t stay with this man child.
This is what happened: “I didn’t contact her for a week because I was busy.”
Totally agree with you. Sounds very juvenile
I'd be petty enough to replace the sex lingerie with regular sets like a good caring partner so my partner would have fresh underwear to wear.
Then be all naive like “Oh, I saw you accidentally packed your sex lingerie to visit family! Since you won't be there having sex, you won't need them!”
I mean, it sounds like he was being a dumbass, damaged her property, and she called him on it. That is a fair reaction. If he doesn't want to get called a dumbass he should stop messing around with other people's stuff.