I was very, very broke at some point in my life…I still made an effort (cheap but very special handmade card with heartfelt message inside and a box of homemade cookies). Money is not a problem here, it's an attitude.
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I have said basically that exact thing to him. He says he doesn’t know where I’m coming from and we are definitely on the same page with regards to kids. He says he thinks he does bring it up, but we do have so much going on in our lives right now that it’s not always in the front of his thoughts (wedding planning, recently moved, planning our honeymoon). He then says it makes him sad when I bring this up so often because it seems like I don’t trust him.
As a guy, I am surprised about others downvoting you. I would rethink staying in this relationship. You’re 100% right. He can’t handle one class but has time to play video games?!
The real world is much harsher than an academic environment. Chores and work should come before video games.
If a woman asked me to re-home my dog, I'd leave her in an instant and re-home myself WITH my dog. Even considering rehoming a dog because it chewed up stuff left out in the floor is absurd. Your GF is completely unreasonable and heartless.
You know this is exactly the kind of thing that women in office culture complain about? If his assistant was a man we would not be having his conversation, but because she's a woman she should be discriminated against having the same access and relationship with her boss? She should be given fewer opportunities to build her network and receive mentorship, to present her accomplishments and be considered for future opportunities? Terrible, sexist take.
You won't like this, but I think you should find a women to beat her up…….hear me out ? If you like her and everything else about her, then pay some women to put her in her place and then chances are after she will be less interested in starting these issues. Also just a suggestion on top of this…….record it and upload to r/fightporn if it goes tits up
My helpful advice done for the day, good luck wirh the relationship bro
You need to breakup like yesterday. He is just walking red flags in human form.
You deserve to be with someone who is proud to be with you. I get it, being gay is very hot and even more so for many men. It sounds like he isn't ready and may never be.
His drinking and gaslighting just take the cake for me though. Don't do that to yourself.
He isn't interested in talking with you either. You can't be in a relationship with someone who won't communicate.
Trust me, my husband and I have gone through a lot. I have a lot of trauma and started to process it 3 years ago. I'm not proud of this but my sex drive took a nose dive. Sure being on SSRIs doesn't help but a lot of my trauma is sexual abuse and I literally just couldn't do anything sexual, even self pleasure.
If I was not willing to be in therapy and communicate with him, our marriage would not have worked. It's been very hot but we love each other and he always tells me this is the “for worse” part and he is here for me.
The plus side, is I'm healing and we get to be teenagers again and rediscover each other ?
You deserve so much more. Make your plans to either have him move out or you do so. Even if you have to pay to break a lease, it's worth it.
Buy a toothpaste for plaque removal and a tongue scraper. Also, protest. I've gone on sex and kissing strike because my partner's dental health was bad.
People can call that coercive, but the disgusting dirty doesn't get to touch what I dont want it to touch.
My partner has never had better dental health. Rarely has any cavities and I bought him braces, because he didn't like the look of his teeth. He actually looks back often and says: “I really dont know what the issue was with me, but im glad you didnt accept it.”
I was very, very broke at some point in my life…I still made an effort (cheap but very special handmade card with heartfelt message inside and a box of homemade cookies). Money is not a problem here, it's an attitude.
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I know she is not telling me about all of them because she was showing me something on her phone and a message from a guy named Anthony popped up and she quickly swiped the notification away so I couldn’t see the message
I have said basically that exact thing to him. He says he doesn’t know where I’m coming from and we are definitely on the same page with regards to kids. He says he thinks he does bring it up, but we do have so much going on in our lives right now that it’s not always in the front of his thoughts (wedding planning, recently moved, planning our honeymoon). He then says it makes him sad when I bring this up so often because it seems like I don’t trust him.
We have talked about timelines as well.
As a guy, I am surprised about others downvoting you. I would rethink staying in this relationship. You’re 100% right. He can’t handle one class but has time to play video games?!
The real world is much harsher than an academic environment. Chores and work should come before video games.
You can’t force someone to mature.
If a woman asked me to re-home my dog, I'd leave her in an instant and re-home myself WITH my dog. Even considering rehoming a dog because it chewed up stuff left out in the floor is absurd. Your GF is completely unreasonable and heartless.
Never let anyone talk to you like that.
You know this is exactly the kind of thing that women in office culture complain about? If his assistant was a man we would not be having his conversation, but because she's a woman she should be discriminated against having the same access and relationship with her boss? She should be given fewer opportunities to build her network and receive mentorship, to present her accomplishments and be considered for future opportunities? Terrible, sexist take.
You won't like this, but I think you should find a women to beat her up…….hear me out ? If you like her and everything else about her, then pay some women to put her in her place and then chances are after she will be less interested in starting these issues. Also just a suggestion on top of this…….record it and upload to r/fightporn if it goes tits up
My helpful advice done for the day, good luck wirh the relationship bro
You need to breakup like yesterday. He is just walking red flags in human form.
You deserve to be with someone who is proud to be with you. I get it, being gay is very hot and even more so for many men. It sounds like he isn't ready and may never be.
His drinking and gaslighting just take the cake for me though. Don't do that to yourself.
He isn't interested in talking with you either. You can't be in a relationship with someone who won't communicate.
Trust me, my husband and I have gone through a lot. I have a lot of trauma and started to process it 3 years ago. I'm not proud of this but my sex drive took a nose dive. Sure being on SSRIs doesn't help but a lot of my trauma is sexual abuse and I literally just couldn't do anything sexual, even self pleasure.
If I was not willing to be in therapy and communicate with him, our marriage would not have worked. It's been very hot but we love each other and he always tells me this is the “for worse” part and he is here for me.
The plus side, is I'm healing and we get to be teenagers again and rediscover each other ?
You deserve so much more. Make your plans to either have him move out or you do so. Even if you have to pay to break a lease, it's worth it.
Buy a toothpaste for plaque removal and a tongue scraper. Also, protest. I've gone on sex and kissing strike because my partner's dental health was bad.
People can call that coercive, but the disgusting dirty doesn't get to touch what I dont want it to touch.
My partner has never had better dental health. Rarely has any cavities and I bought him braces, because he didn't like the look of his teeth. He actually looks back often and says: “I really dont know what the issue was with me, but im glad you didnt accept it.”