I mean… She said she'd get rid of them and she's not doing anything untoward while in a relationship with you. Unless she doesn't follow through or you have some other reason not to believe what she says, I'd say don't worry about it.
If you’re making a pros and cons list, yea it’s over. If you have to consider whether or not you want to break up with him then I don’t think things are working out. Not to mention there are some pretty serious cons…. No chemistry, jealousy, long distance, mismatch on kids and sex drives, unhealthy relationship, etc etc.
Half the pros you listed are the bare minimum. Cuddles is a pro? Any boyfriend should give you cuddles
Forget how everyone one else tells you about what is normal to them. Because that chnaged for everyone because we all have different boundaries. So how do YOU feel about it? Would you like it to stop? Express any feelings about this to him? I’m just saying don’t let people dictate how you feel about your own relationship.
You're right. I shouldn't jump into the worst-case scenarios, and I feel like that's what I did. I do believe my opinion would cause unwarranted drama since I do not know the full story. I'll take that into account to only give my opinion on this matter if she asked me. I'm just worried that she'll be taken advantage of since live, in my opinion, is risky.
If she does ask for my opinion, do you have advice on how to frame it so it doesn't seem like I'm accusing her bf and their relationship? How do I gently express my opinion if she asks?
This is her supervisors job, not yours. If you’re the supervisor or you’re willing to take one for the team, try the script on Ask A Manager. It’s kind, direct and acknowledges potential medical issues.
Right now it sounds like you’re all being nice instead of kind. Nice is not telling someone they have broccoli in their teeth bc you don’t want them to be embarrassed next to you. Kind is telling them so they don’t find it at the end of the day and realize people were looking at it the whole time.
I know I'm a POS Well that’s putting it mildly and I don't deserve my wife and our two beautiful sons (4 and 2). You’re right! You don’t. I know that by telling her this will be the end of our marriage. Good. She will not forgive me, She shouldn’t. there will be no talking through it. There is no talking through you being a weak POS She will tell me to pack my bags and leave immediately. Then go ahead and start packing. Have fun in your cardboard box I can't live with the guilt of not telling her, but I can't live without her. I don't know what to do. Leave. Set that poor woman and her children free. Because quite frankly, who cares if you can’t live! without her. Because you clearly can. So if you want to hoe around do so without hurting her any further
you’re manipulative and you are a predator.
I mean… She said she'd get rid of them and she's not doing anything untoward while in a relationship with you. Unless she doesn't follow through or you have some other reason not to believe what she says, I'd say don't worry about it.
If you’re making a pros and cons list, yea it’s over. If you have to consider whether or not you want to break up with him then I don’t think things are working out. Not to mention there are some pretty serious cons…. No chemistry, jealousy, long distance, mismatch on kids and sex drives, unhealthy relationship, etc etc.
Half the pros you listed are the bare minimum. Cuddles is a pro? Any boyfriend should give you cuddles
Forget how everyone one else tells you about what is normal to them. Because that chnaged for everyone because we all have different boundaries. So how do YOU feel about it? Would you like it to stop? Express any feelings about this to him? I’m just saying don’t let people dictate how you feel about your own relationship.
You have a cheater, so if you stay with him, you’re gonna be cheated on.
Nice save OPs girlfriend.
Now, back to buying expensive gifts OP!
You're right. I shouldn't jump into the worst-case scenarios, and I feel like that's what I did. I do believe my opinion would cause unwarranted drama since I do not know the full story. I'll take that into account to only give my opinion on this matter if she asked me. I'm just worried that she'll be taken advantage of since live, in my opinion, is risky.
If she does ask for my opinion, do you have advice on how to frame it so it doesn't seem like I'm accusing her bf and their relationship? How do I gently express my opinion if she asks?
Great comment ignoring all the shady behaviour to rant about nothing. Genius
This is her supervisors job, not yours. If you’re the supervisor or you’re willing to take one for the team, try the script on Ask A Manager. It’s kind, direct and acknowledges potential medical issues.
Right now it sounds like you’re all being nice instead of kind. Nice is not telling someone they have broccoli in their teeth bc you don’t want them to be embarrassed next to you. Kind is telling them so they don’t find it at the end of the day and realize people were looking at it the whole time.
Alright let’s go through this line by line.
I know I'm a POS Well that’s putting it mildly and I don't deserve my wife and our two beautiful sons (4 and 2). You’re right! You don’t. I know that by telling her this will be the end of our marriage. Good. She will not forgive me, She shouldn’t. there will be no talking through it. There is no talking through you being a weak POS She will tell me to pack my bags and leave immediately. Then go ahead and start packing. Have fun in your cardboard box I can't live with the guilt of not telling her, but I can't live without her. I don't know what to do. Leave. Set that poor woman and her children free. Because quite frankly, who cares if you can’t live! without her. Because you clearly can. So if you want to hoe around do so without hurting her any further
because all of the issues were small at the time and I thought i could fix them. But they piled up and now I’m drowning in them
?? ?? ?? yes