You only think she cheated on 2 guys with you (which kinda make it worse) but if she’s capable of cheating before, then she is again.
There is 1 reason and 1 reason only for her to wear the clothes she wears – for the attention she gets. It’s the same for everyone.
You wear normal clothes (jeans and a tshirt, skirt and blouse, etc.) for every day and you don’t care. But when you dress up it is for the attention – you want someone to say “damn you look good” and if she’s not wearing the, for you to say that, then it’s everyone else at the club.
Now with most people that would be fine, cause you can trust them that nothing is going to happen. But she is a cheater. You can’t trust her at all.
Oof, I really feel for you here. Not to throw all men into this camp, but this was my parenting experience too and that of many of my friends—and that’s even talking about dads with progressive attitudes! Progressive attitudes until it comes to being in-tune with their children’s needs that inconvenience them.
If this relationship is important to you, and I hope it is, I would try re-framing this as something other than “weaponized” incompetence. That view will naturally fuel your anger to the detriment of your relationship.
Try having calm conversations with him at a time of day other than when this is going on. (I’d say talk when you’re not tired, but you must be exhausted all the time.) Maybe ask how you can help wake him up. Tell him how much you need his full participation in this difficult stage of parenting. Don’t accuse him of anything like weaponizing his incompetence. Good luck!
You still live together after breaking up like that, she doesn’t pay rent AND you’re babysitting her kid. Get a spine, dude. She doesn’t get a say in if you can bring anyone over to your home. If she doesn’t like it she can move out. She’s just an unwanted guest at this point.
Why wait until Monday? Your kid is there now, and since you thought it was important enough to bring up here, does waiting until you see if he brings the kid back in a couple of days make the environment better for your baby today?
Your biggest mistake was not confessing to your GF. Everything else that happened was done to cover up and keeps secrets and lies So sad.
Yeah, break up with him.
No.
You only think she cheated on 2 guys with you (which kinda make it worse) but if she’s capable of cheating before, then she is again.
There is 1 reason and 1 reason only for her to wear the clothes she wears – for the attention she gets. It’s the same for everyone.
You wear normal clothes (jeans and a tshirt, skirt and blouse, etc.) for every day and you don’t care. But when you dress up it is for the attention – you want someone to say “damn you look good” and if she’s not wearing the, for you to say that, then it’s everyone else at the club.
Now with most people that would be fine, cause you can trust them that nothing is going to happen. But she is a cheater. You can’t trust her at all.
Oof, I really feel for you here. Not to throw all men into this camp, but this was my parenting experience too and that of many of my friends—and that’s even talking about dads with progressive attitudes! Progressive attitudes until it comes to being in-tune with their children’s needs that inconvenience them.
If this relationship is important to you, and I hope it is, I would try re-framing this as something other than “weaponized” incompetence. That view will naturally fuel your anger to the detriment of your relationship.
Try having calm conversations with him at a time of day other than when this is going on. (I’d say talk when you’re not tired, but you must be exhausted all the time.) Maybe ask how you can help wake him up. Tell him how much you need his full participation in this difficult stage of parenting. Don’t accuse him of anything like weaponizing his incompetence. Good luck!
I can’t figure out why you’re still dating her.
You still live together after breaking up like that, she doesn’t pay rent AND you’re babysitting her kid. Get a spine, dude. She doesn’t get a say in if you can bring anyone over to your home. If she doesn’t like it she can move out. She’s just an unwanted guest at this point.
Why wait until Monday? Your kid is there now, and since you thought it was important enough to bring up here, does waiting until you see if he brings the kid back in a couple of days make the environment better for your baby today?