You will need to get a lawyer to help you navigate the divorce
You will need to talk to a judge about custody arrangements
If he wants joint custody, you absolutely should grant it to him no questions asked
If the biological father files for paternity, that may throw a wrench in the works and you will have to talk to your lawyer about what to do in that case
If he decides to tell people the child is not his and declines to continue raising them, you will have to deal with the social consequences of that and you will be a single mother unless the biological father decides to step up. You will also have to find a way to explain to your child why daddy is gone. I recommend a child psychologist to help you navigate that if it comes to it.
If it’s been untreated since baby girl was born, yes it could have lasted this long.
The Mom of 3 grown daughters with lifelong depression only recently taken seriously & treated in me also says yes.
Hope you both find the answer. I feel though, that if she is telling you, she is reaching out and asking for help. Listen to her, she can start by talking to her OB or her GP then find a therapist to work with.
Let her know you love her, are listening to her & want to help her, you aren’t judging her as calmly & lovingly as you can.
Everyone needs help sometimes when it’s overwhelming. This is not abnormal! Kids are hella work, no matter what age they are, even grown ones are exhausting sometimes, but I feel this could be PPD. & always better to rule it out getting actual answers as a team/couple than the alternative & something being worse than we may have thought.
He never really like guy friends which is problematic but then again I don’t have many friends. It’s the only friend he down right asked me to not talk to anymore.
People with different religions can work in a relationship but not when they're being dicks about differing beliefs and opinions.
Your boyfriend doesn't respect you or your beliefs. That's a huge red flag
If he decides to divorce you:
You will need to get a lawyer to help you navigate the divorce
You will need to talk to a judge about custody arrangements
If he wants joint custody, you absolutely should grant it to him no questions asked
If the biological father files for paternity, that may throw a wrench in the works and you will have to talk to your lawyer about what to do in that case
If he decides to tell people the child is not his and declines to continue raising them, you will have to deal with the social consequences of that and you will be a single mother unless the biological father decides to step up. You will also have to find a way to explain to your child why daddy is gone. I recommend a child psychologist to help you navigate that if it comes to it.
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Are you the wife?
Yea my husband came out as bi. He is now my exhusband and has completely switched teams.
You husband is building a relationship with this guy.. its not some threesome where a guy joined you both and he can explore.
You can be poly and let him date who he wants? But that's separate that being bi
Honestly I think your right about the ick feeling. This isn't going to end good.
Leave that abuser.
If it’s been untreated since baby girl was born, yes it could have lasted this long.
The Mom of 3 grown daughters with lifelong depression only recently taken seriously & treated in me also says yes.
Hope you both find the answer. I feel though, that if she is telling you, she is reaching out and asking for help. Listen to her, she can start by talking to her OB or her GP then find a therapist to work with.
Let her know you love her, are listening to her & want to help her, you aren’t judging her as calmly & lovingly as you can.
Everyone needs help sometimes when it’s overwhelming. This is not abnormal! Kids are hella work, no matter what age they are, even grown ones are exhausting sometimes, but I feel this could be PPD. & always better to rule it out getting actual answers as a team/couple than the alternative & something being worse than we may have thought.
Certainly above this sub's pay grade. Wouldn't surprise me if 80%+ of people in this sub are teenagers.
Yeah no man. Don’t be a doormat. That’s so not okay.
He never really like guy friends which is problematic but then again I don’t have many friends. It’s the only friend he down right asked me to not talk to anymore.
Thanks for your reply!
You've made a good point and I've been thinking about this as well.
You get through finals and you MOVE OUT and block him everywhere.