This man she cheated and she will again. She already justified her cheating by blaming you for a depressive episode that comes with the death of family. We know you have feelings and that’s why we are saying divorce. You clearly are not over it and that hollow feeling will slowly turn into resentment towards your wife. As for the dogs let her have them if you can’t take care of them. If you love the dogs and you know you can’t afford to care for them then it would be best for them and yourself to give them to someone that can. Divorce is very hot and it takes time but op you will feel better and you will find someone that will not cheat and appreciate you for you.
As someone who used to get extremely jealous. I’ll tell you this is a red flag. The reddest of them. Jealousy doesn’t just go away people who suffer from jealousy need constant validation from their partner and initially you might be okay with that but trust me you’ll get sick of it . Not to mention, jealous people also have double standards. So maybe something that you do he might deem unfaithful but if he does it it may be totally fine. I had all these problems and I never properly dealt with them I’m trying to better myself now but yeah it’s very damaging.
Make her leave your place and go home! She isn't going to stop hitting you and always has an excuse to justify her actions. Stop letting her hit you and make her leave and tell her to stay away! It's that simple, open the door and tell her to go!
Thank you!! I genuinely just felt like calling it rape doesn’t feel right. Yeah I gave him the go ahead a while ago, but I never brought it up again. Neither did he. Sometimes shit like that slips through the cracks of communication.
Thank you for saying this I also dated people with people who are thirsty when I was in my early twenties and that was many decades ago. I still remember those relationships fondly, I don't feel like I was used at all. Of course there's an age difference. There's often differences in age class culture education. Of course young women need to be careful but actually sadly in this culture women just need to be careful.
Dude spending two hours trying to get a kid to sleep literally has me wanting to hurl myself out of a window lol. I’m like….not a sane person after the first hour of trying to get a child to sleep.
I think just let her have a break on the weekend to the extent you can and have a chat with her once the dust has settled.
But lawd help me if my husband took my venting seriously when I’m trying to get one of our kids to fucking sleep!!!
We’re able to talk to each other, but she’s a whole new level. He ended up telling her we’re not coming back until she can be more appreciative and not talk to me behind my back
Back when I was a single 19 year old mom I had it on my dating profile and made sure to mention it just in case they didn't read the profile. Mention it right away because other wise it just sounds like you're hiding it
I became a father at 18. Became single a year later. I'm 32 now. I've been where you're at and trust me it's not as big of a deal breaker as you might think. The overwhelming majority of women I dated between then and now didn't mind.
So bring it up at the earliest opportunity possible.
You talking to a divorce attorney who was a former therapist. I know by three decades of this work that people are infinitely better off without anvil partners dragging them down. We get one shot at this life. Just one. So do our children. We have to make the best of it. You don’t walk out at the first argument or disappointment. You try to help someone through addiction. Staying with a cheater, liar, abuser, addict? Not the right move for her or for a child. Period.
Dump her and move on to someone that shares your goals
This man she cheated and she will again. She already justified her cheating by blaming you for a depressive episode that comes with the death of family. We know you have feelings and that’s why we are saying divorce. You clearly are not over it and that hollow feeling will slowly turn into resentment towards your wife. As for the dogs let her have them if you can’t take care of them. If you love the dogs and you know you can’t afford to care for them then it would be best for them and yourself to give them to someone that can. Divorce is very hot and it takes time but op you will feel better and you will find someone that will not cheat and appreciate you for you.
There's no coming back from that you need to just leave him alone and let him deal with it
As someone who used to get extremely jealous. I’ll tell you this is a red flag. The reddest of them. Jealousy doesn’t just go away people who suffer from jealousy need constant validation from their partner and initially you might be okay with that but trust me you’ll get sick of it . Not to mention, jealous people also have double standards. So maybe something that you do he might deem unfaithful but if he does it it may be totally fine. I had all these problems and I never properly dealt with them I’m trying to better myself now but yeah it’s very damaging.
I think she has a prenup that will leave her with very little.
Its not even a loss. The 6 years is gone forever no matter what she spent it on.
Make her leave your place and go home! She isn't going to stop hitting you and always has an excuse to justify her actions. Stop letting her hit you and make her leave and tell her to stay away! It's that simple, open the door and tell her to go!
Why’s that a surprise? There’s some people still getting married fresh outta high school.
Two words: Tonsil. Stones.
Thank you!! I genuinely just felt like calling it rape doesn’t feel right. Yeah I gave him the go ahead a while ago, but I never brought it up again. Neither did he. Sometimes shit like that slips through the cracks of communication.
Thank you for saying this I also dated people with people who are thirsty when I was in my early twenties and that was many decades ago. I still remember those relationships fondly, I don't feel like I was used at all. Of course there's an age difference. There's often differences in age class culture education. Of course young women need to be careful but actually sadly in this culture women just need to be careful.
Dude spending two hours trying to get a kid to sleep literally has me wanting to hurl myself out of a window lol. I’m like….not a sane person after the first hour of trying to get a child to sleep.
I think just let her have a break on the weekend to the extent you can and have a chat with her once the dust has settled.
But lawd help me if my husband took my venting seriously when I’m trying to get one of our kids to fucking sleep!!!
We’re able to talk to each other, but she’s a whole new level. He ended up telling her we’re not coming back until she can be more appreciative and not talk to me behind my back
Back when I was a single 19 year old mom I had it on my dating profile and made sure to mention it just in case they didn't read the profile. Mention it right away because other wise it just sounds like you're hiding it
I became a father at 18. Became single a year later. I'm 32 now. I've been where you're at and trust me it's not as big of a deal breaker as you might think. The overwhelming majority of women I dated between then and now didn't mind.
So bring it up at the earliest opportunity possible.
Exactly. Plus imagine meeting their gang, I'd just feel like a weird black peacock.
You talking to a divorce attorney who was a former therapist. I know by three decades of this work that people are infinitely better off without anvil partners dragging them down. We get one shot at this life. Just one. So do our children. We have to make the best of it. You don’t walk out at the first argument or disappointment. You try to help someone through addiction. Staying with a cheater, liar, abuser, addict? Not the right move for her or for a child. Period.
I wish you all the good things in your future.