when it comes to helping me he will help as he did 3 weeks ago. he came over and helped and that was only after i saved his ass lol. its been so back and forth…
like he would come over and talk to me at school. on his bday i didnt wish him (october) and he messaged me he saw my car lol.
then a week later he sent me a picture of. me. first day of classes he wanted to see me.
i asked to talk in september and thats when he dismissed it … as he was busy with client stuff. cried and begged and he did nothing
but in beginning of august he calls to see me on the first day of classes..
i give up lol.
as i said very back and forth
last time we met he said his mom asked about me… made remarks of how i move my hands when i talk and mimicked me.
said hes turning into me when he goes shop.
i dunno … maybe he was just being nice.
he said that when his mom comes in march im invited for dinner
so yea
we had a fight in the summer and he resurfaced back and in august he drunk cried to me saying he missed me
That depends on what your intention was. Were you intending to make him feel bad? Were you hoping your words would make him spend more time talking to you and apologizing further? If yes to either of these or anything similar then yes it’s manipulative.
Dealbreaker if it was me. Easy to say this as I’m not invested and I know how my heart works. I’ve put up with less. I’m sorry this has happened. Forget the honesty, it’s more about how you’re literally just the next best thing. It sounds horrible to put it like that but that’s what he’s saying when he says that. Fuck him. I hope he’s not also manipulating cause that’s some narcissistic behavior almost- to be able to lack so much self awareness to bring that up- the plus is at least you know now.
Fuck that dude, I think you deserve much better and his selfish behavior will only cause problems in the future. This won’t be something that’s easy to overcome. I wouldn’t ever forget it throughout the length of the relationship unless he made some real changes and showed me I’m the apple of his eye not his fucking ex.
Yell him Christmas with your family every other year. Then you both do his tradition every other year.
Family gatherings are essential and reasonable in a marriage, so he needs to suck it up sometimes .
when it comes to helping me he will help as he did 3 weeks ago. he came over and helped and that was only after i saved his ass lol. its been so back and forth…
like he would come over and talk to me at school. on his bday i didnt wish him (october) and he messaged me he saw my car lol.
then a week later he sent me a picture of. me. first day of classes he wanted to see me.
i asked to talk in september and thats when he dismissed it … as he was busy with client stuff. cried and begged and he did nothing
but in beginning of august he calls to see me on the first day of classes..
i give up lol.
as i said very back and forth
last time we met he said his mom asked about me… made remarks of how i move my hands when i talk and mimicked me.
said hes turning into me when he goes shop.
i dunno … maybe he was just being nice.
he said that when his mom comes in march im invited for dinner
so yea
we had a fight in the summer and he resurfaced back and in august he drunk cried to me saying he missed me
very very back and forth
Just move out. May her husband step up. You can maintain contact with your siblings even if you don’t live! at home!
Your Mom is controlling, disrespects you. She think she has control over how you spend your money. Do she and step dad both work?
That depends on what your intention was. Were you intending to make him feel bad? Were you hoping your words would make him spend more time talking to you and apologizing further? If yes to either of these or anything similar then yes it’s manipulative.
Dealbreaker if it was me. Easy to say this as I’m not invested and I know how my heart works. I’ve put up with less. I’m sorry this has happened. Forget the honesty, it’s more about how you’re literally just the next best thing. It sounds horrible to put it like that but that’s what he’s saying when he says that. Fuck him. I hope he’s not also manipulating cause that’s some narcissistic behavior almost- to be able to lack so much self awareness to bring that up- the plus is at least you know now.
Fuck that dude, I think you deserve much better and his selfish behavior will only cause problems in the future. This won’t be something that’s easy to overcome. I wouldn’t ever forget it throughout the length of the relationship unless he made some real changes and showed me I’m the apple of his eye not his fucking ex.
Ah the rosetinted glasses are coming off and you are starting to see the red flags.
Yeah no OP I think you can do better than this guy.
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