Forgive my ignorance, internet stranger, but can I press charges for something like this without having to be near / interact with him? Obviously I have every reason to want to be as uninvolved as possible with this person. Could veterinary records be acquired and sent straight to the police?
Career banker here. Ramsey has some good points, but he is an ass and full of shit with a lot of his points.
You should look into the yours-mine-ours system. Checks go into individual accounts, bill money is transferred as agreed into a joint checking, have a joint savings for household things, but keep your own savings as well for cya.
If he thinks you should be able to communicate, then you should be able to communicate with your money in your own account. That’s how we do it, and our setup stems from years in banking for both of us. We’ve seen it all. Only the savings is fully joint for us, but he knows what I have and I know what he has because we’re open and talk about it. If your bf isn’t even open to talking about other options, don’t give in. Why do you have to sacrifice your comfort for his demands?
He yelled at me over the phone said he wanted to choke me out
Literally the only advice we can give thats intelligent is to LEAVE the relationship and have the police to a welfare check on hm.
Forgive my ignorance, internet stranger, but can I press charges for something like this without having to be near / interact with him? Obviously I have every reason to want to be as uninvolved as possible with this person. Could veterinary records be acquired and sent straight to the police?
Sounds like you've both already made your choice and this relationship probably isn't for either of you.
I dont doubt there will be others who won't date you over the same principle. You need to find someone who will.
Career banker here. Ramsey has some good points, but he is an ass and full of shit with a lot of his points.
You should look into the yours-mine-ours system. Checks go into individual accounts, bill money is transferred as agreed into a joint checking, have a joint savings for household things, but keep your own savings as well for cya.
If he thinks you should be able to communicate, then you should be able to communicate with your money in your own account. That’s how we do it, and our setup stems from years in banking for both of us. We’ve seen it all. Only the savings is fully joint for us, but he knows what I have and I know what he has because we’re open and talk about it. If your bf isn’t even open to talking about other options, don’t give in. Why do you have to sacrifice your comfort for his demands?
Do you have children?