NTA. Don't apologize. Go no contact with your sister. This isn't a prank. Even after you asked for a gun to commit suicide she didn't reveal it was a prank right then and there. That's beyond messed up. Looks like she wants your husband maybe.
You had a very extreme reaction and some therapy could be needed. A prank this vile most of the time doesn't come out of nowhere. Does she have a history of bullying you? Either way some therapy is much needed.
Apologize to your husband for scaring him. But sister needs to grovel to both of you.
When you are hanging out, avoid the intense 'feelings' conversations. Just talk about stuff you both like. Keep it positive. There's no need to psychoanalyze him every time you're together. Make being around each other fun, positive and a safe space. He knows you're there for him as a friend if he wants to talk. Why not just be there for a friend and have fun?
Hmmmm. He also says things like ‘I’ve never dated a girl with a fringe before.’
And when we first started talking on tinder, I asked him if he’s in a band and he said ‘I was in a band but I started dating the lead singer and the whole band split up. It’s a whole thing haha!’
And ‘I’m not veggie but I dated a vegan once, which wasn’t half bad.’
She actually said something similar. I guess my perspective is I've listened to her and have adjusted my boundaries with these friends seeing if we can find a middle ground, but maybe there isn't any.
Your boyfriend doesn't see anything wrong with what his buddy/cousin did. It's as simple as that.
I'd run.
FUCK HIM 10000000%
NTA. Don't apologize. Go no contact with your sister. This isn't a prank. Even after you asked for a gun to commit suicide she didn't reveal it was a prank right then and there. That's beyond messed up. Looks like she wants your husband maybe.
You had a very extreme reaction and some therapy could be needed. A prank this vile most of the time doesn't come out of nowhere. Does she have a history of bullying you? Either way some therapy is much needed.
Apologize to your husband for scaring him. But sister needs to grovel to both of you.
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When you are hanging out, avoid the intense 'feelings' conversations. Just talk about stuff you both like. Keep it positive. There's no need to psychoanalyze him every time you're together. Make being around each other fun, positive and a safe space. He knows you're there for him as a friend if he wants to talk. Why not just be there for a friend and have fun?
Hmmmm. He also says things like ‘I’ve never dated a girl with a fringe before.’
And when we first started talking on tinder, I asked him if he’s in a band and he said ‘I was in a band but I started dating the lead singer and the whole band split up. It’s a whole thing haha!’
And ‘I’m not veggie but I dated a vegan once, which wasn’t half bad.’
Your BF is an idiot.
She actually said something similar. I guess my perspective is I've listened to her and have adjusted my boundaries with these friends seeing if we can find a middle ground, but maybe there isn't any.