On one hand it is a little weird. I can see it from her perspective. If you're only watching porn of white guys with Asian women, does that mean you have an Asian fetish? Are you only dating her because she's Asian?
Otoh there's the whole “is this a new porn interest because of GF's race” thing. And if that's the case, you should just talk to her and explain it.
He's trying too hot to minimize risk by controlling outcomes. He has difficulty making important decisions and you don't, and that makes him feel insecure.
Hopefully he will grow out of it, but in the meantime I would challenge him a little. When this behavior surfaces, ask him what he is afraid of or what could go wrong. It may help him see that he is being fearful, not careful.
What exactly are his reasons?
Can you link this article?! Something just clicked in my head (my bf has ADHD)
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U ok man? What happened?
Indeed, the logic really doesn't make any sense.
On one hand it is a little weird. I can see it from her perspective. If you're only watching porn of white guys with Asian women, does that mean you have an Asian fetish? Are you only dating her because she's Asian?
Otoh there's the whole “is this a new porn interest because of GF's race” thing. And if that's the case, you should just talk to her and explain it.
He's trying too hot to minimize risk by controlling outcomes. He has difficulty making important decisions and you don't, and that makes him feel insecure.
Hopefully he will grow out of it, but in the meantime I would challenge him a little. When this behavior surfaces, ask him what he is afraid of or what could go wrong. It may help him see that he is being fearful, not careful.
And next time, buy the car.
Your relationship is probably over… Better to start seeing someone, you never know at least you have a bigger chance in finding a better partner
Just gotta leave love. If he is buying cars and not rings you know where you are on his priority list. Stop wasting your time.
OP please go ask this question in r/childfree