I agree, my family has always had issues. Especially my mom. I've told my dad multiple times in the past that my mom needs therapy or anger management but being the Asian people they are, mental illness just doesn't seem to exist. I really wish I could've only spoken happy things with my parents but they're ridiculously controlling, for the longest time they would constantly want me to break it off with my girlfriend because she doesn't fulfill a criteria they have. I do agree as well that I should probably put my happiness as the priority. This is something I've been doing since I moved out here. But this also means I'd have to care less for what my parents want and I've always wondered if this might not have been the right way.
I'm guessing you're referring to another comment of his? I haven't done a dive into his other comments. If he doesn't want someone talking about their sex life, that makes sense because that's a matter of consent.
Where OP draws the line with emotional intimacy would be something he'd need to discuss with the partner in question since there's no blanket rule that can apply to every single situation.
Maybe he felt guilty for cheating and wanted to show you more “affection” to compensate. Maybe he realized how easy it was for him to cheat and was scared YOU were cheating too (he was projecting his fears onto you).
It doesn’t really matter. You knew he was a bad person before and you know he’s a worse person now. Be glad he’s out of your life
So go out without him or send him home early and carry on with your friends. He doesn’t like going out and staying out late.
Just because he’s 23 doesn’t mean he is required to enjoy drinking and partying or that he must stay up with you.
If you want to date someone who is into partying, this isn’t the guy.
Thank you for your response.
I agree, my family has always had issues. Especially my mom. I've told my dad multiple times in the past that my mom needs therapy or anger management but being the Asian people they are, mental illness just doesn't seem to exist. I really wish I could've only spoken happy things with my parents but they're ridiculously controlling, for the longest time they would constantly want me to break it off with my girlfriend because she doesn't fulfill a criteria they have. I do agree as well that I should probably put my happiness as the priority. This is something I've been doing since I moved out here. But this also means I'd have to care less for what my parents want and I've always wondered if this might not have been the right way.
I'm guessing you're referring to another comment of his? I haven't done a dive into his other comments. If he doesn't want someone talking about their sex life, that makes sense because that's a matter of consent.
Where OP draws the line with emotional intimacy would be something he'd need to discuss with the partner in question since there's no blanket rule that can apply to every single situation.
Maybe he felt guilty for cheating and wanted to show you more “affection” to compensate. Maybe he realized how easy it was for him to cheat and was scared YOU were cheating too (he was projecting his fears onto you).
It doesn’t really matter. You knew he was a bad person before and you know he’s a worse person now. Be glad he’s out of your life