Hold on, the claim is that he started raping her at age 13 or 14 (I don't know who is the older sibling) but conception didn't happen until later. So he could have been attacking her for a span of 3 or more years. That's horrible to write.
OP needs to put herself first for once, take 20 steps back from this relationship, and potentially get some counseling to learn to recognise red flags.
Why do you need to know that? If he wanted to be with you he had a chance and he would have took it. People usually don't just let things go away if they really want that. so let it go and if you want a relationship with a guy be upfront about it start it of good.
I‘m sorry to say so but I really don’t think it’s a good idea. Sure, it’s rom-com cute but she explicitly told you she isn’t up for anything romantic between the two of you. You should respect that.
Odds are she’ll find it way more creepy than cute if you don’t respect her wishes so things between you will likely get very awkward. It’s even possible she’ll say you can’t be friends anymore since you want very different things and ignored her needs. And unfortunately, even on the off chance that she can be swayed to meet for a date, long distance across countries doesn’t work for most people, especially at your age.
What advice do you need? You are an adult, you don't need his permissions to go on a holiday. He's an adult too and vocalised where his line is. It's time to make an adult decision, which do you think will benefit you best? Your boyfriend who's already told you he'd leave and not respect you or your friends who already left and didn't respect you last year.
I'm very curious what religion he is in. Jehovah's Witness?
You make it sound like you have no choice here, but you do. Do you really want to be with someone in a cult? Someone who would let strangers dictate your relationship? Is it really worth it?
Beyond that, you have some major compatibility issues regarding marriage and children.
Cut your losses and find someone who isn't in a cult!
Hold on, the claim is that he started raping her at age 13 or 14 (I don't know who is the older sibling) but conception didn't happen until later. So he could have been attacking her for a span of 3 or more years. That's horrible to write.
OP needs to put herself first for once, take 20 steps back from this relationship, and potentially get some counseling to learn to recognise red flags.
Why do you need to know that? If he wanted to be with you he had a chance and he would have took it. People usually don't just let things go away if they really want that. so let it go and if you want a relationship with a guy be upfront about it start it of good.
I‘m sorry to say so but I really don’t think it’s a good idea. Sure, it’s rom-com cute but she explicitly told you she isn’t up for anything romantic between the two of you. You should respect that.
Odds are she’ll find it way more creepy than cute if you don’t respect her wishes so things between you will likely get very awkward. It’s even possible she’ll say you can’t be friends anymore since you want very different things and ignored her needs. And unfortunately, even on the off chance that she can be swayed to meet for a date, long distance across countries doesn’t work for most people, especially at your age.
What advice do you need? You are an adult, you don't need his permissions to go on a holiday. He's an adult too and vocalised where his line is. It's time to make an adult decision, which do you think will benefit you best? Your boyfriend who's already told you he'd leave and not respect you or your friends who already left and didn't respect you last year.
I'm very curious what religion he is in. Jehovah's Witness?
You make it sound like you have no choice here, but you do. Do you really want to be with someone in a cult? Someone who would let strangers dictate your relationship? Is it really worth it?
Beyond that, you have some major compatibility issues regarding marriage and children.
Cut your losses and find someone who isn't in a cult!
This is the definition of my mom, lol.