She could get a job. That was how I secured my financial future. I also took care of my child without any support from the ex. Then I saved for my retirement and bought a house. Don't take care of her. Let her do that. Give a man a fish vs teach a man to fish.
It sounds like he's in a rut with finances and job. You have been together a long time…maybe it's time for a change. Talk to him about getting a different job or a different career. A job where he makes more money or he keeps his job and gets a part time job on the side for more money and hours.
He doesn't care. He's made that clear in his dismissing you and not even bothering to try. You are in love with the idea of him, not the reality.
You lost me at “he still lives with his mom”
So your GF of 3 years has a “slight” attraction to a coworker and you are mad at her “gay” friend?
I might focus a little on this coworker, at least be alert.
She could get a job. That was how I secured my financial future. I also took care of my child without any support from the ex. Then I saved for my retirement and bought a house. Don't take care of her. Let her do that. Give a man a fish vs teach a man to fish.
It sounds like he's in a rut with finances and job. You have been together a long time…maybe it's time for a change. Talk to him about getting a different job or a different career. A job where he makes more money or he keeps his job and gets a part time job on the side for more money and hours.