Dude I’m so serious leave him. That reminds me of my ex, I weighed about 120 when we met (depression skinny) and then as the relationship progressed I got up to 140, which is still a fine weight for my height. When he broke up with me he said one of the reasons is that I “was getting fat” (I wasn’t) I’m now with someone who loves me for me and thinks I’m hard regardless of weight and I’m currently 155. The point is, don’t settle for a man that’s going to make you feel like shit about yourself, there’s so many men that will treat you better than that
He knew you at 15? Sounds a lot like you got groomed.
Get an abortion. Don't bring a kid into this world with a guy who is too ashamed of you to introduce to his parents. Certainly don't stay in a relationship with him.
You should let her go if she wants to go. She is unhappy. She is sitting in an apartment with your friend who ignores her. You work the whole day and the little freetime goes to your friend. You say yourself that you want to say there for several paychecks, so a few months. You rushed this relationship as if you are a teenager. You didn’t even knew this woman and lived with her. Was this a saviour thing? But you just hurt her right now. Even if it is her isdue, the situation makes her crazy and you can't change the situation. You don't want to let her go for selfish reason, but actually you also don't spend time with her. Let her go. You can still stay in contact and if you have a steady life again, you can ask her to try again. But this know…
And that you also don't see how it feels that your friend totally ignores her, never ask her for the favor, just you, even such small things and as soon as you come home, you go to your friend. And you say that you pay for staying there, so why pay with “favors” for your stay and lose the little time? You also wrote your daily plan and there was no time for your gf?
Dude, I would divorce you asap. You know what’s harder than being a single mom? Being a new mom in a relationship with someone who puts you and your child second and gives you a lot of stress all the time. When you’re single, you at least don’t have the stress and pain of the constant let downs.
“Hey, I appreciate that you're proud to be seen with me and like to take me out, but I want to get to know you beyond the wining and dining. I'd prefer if we could have some lowkey nights where we're just focusing on each other and not going all out with the razzle dazzle. I feel a bit like a trophy right now and I want our relationship to be equals. You don't need to impress me, I already like you.”
Yeah, I go through my partner’s stuff as well, i see her as a possession and therefore I don’t respect her autonomy to have her own private thoughts.
I find when this causes insecurities the best way to handle it is to bottle it up, having a direct conversation about thoughts and feeling with her is beneath a man of my emotional intelligence.
You said you were uncomfortable with him using porn, you should have been more clear with him that its actually a deal breaker for you. You are allowed to feel how you want about porn, but you need to be clear with your partner about it.
Once you break up, you are not responsible for her. She's an adult, she'll be fine. Whether she quits or not is not really your issue anymore, but talk to her asap so she can make an informed decision. Break it off clean and firmly, sounds like this relationship was dead a long time ago, time to pull the bandaid off
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Dude I’m so serious leave him. That reminds me of my ex, I weighed about 120 when we met (depression skinny) and then as the relationship progressed I got up to 140, which is still a fine weight for my height. When he broke up with me he said one of the reasons is that I “was getting fat” (I wasn’t) I’m now with someone who loves me for me and thinks I’m hard regardless of weight and I’m currently 155. The point is, don’t settle for a man that’s going to make you feel like shit about yourself, there’s so many men that will treat you better than that
Forty felines.
This has to be a troll post ?
Not a bad idea, just nervous? I just don’t want to annoy her
He knew you at 15? Sounds a lot like you got groomed.
Get an abortion. Don't bring a kid into this world with a guy who is too ashamed of you to introduce to his parents. Certainly don't stay in a relationship with him.
You should let her go if she wants to go. She is unhappy. She is sitting in an apartment with your friend who ignores her. You work the whole day and the little freetime goes to your friend. You say yourself that you want to say there for several paychecks, so a few months. You rushed this relationship as if you are a teenager. You didn’t even knew this woman and lived with her. Was this a saviour thing? But you just hurt her right now. Even if it is her isdue, the situation makes her crazy and you can't change the situation. You don't want to let her go for selfish reason, but actually you also don't spend time with her. Let her go. You can still stay in contact and if you have a steady life again, you can ask her to try again. But this know…
And that you also don't see how it feels that your friend totally ignores her, never ask her for the favor, just you, even such small things and as soon as you come home, you go to your friend. And you say that you pay for staying there, so why pay with “favors” for your stay and lose the little time? You also wrote your daily plan and there was no time for your gf?
Dude, I would divorce you asap. You know what’s harder than being a single mom? Being a new mom in a relationship with someone who puts you and your child second and gives you a lot of stress all the time. When you’re single, you at least don’t have the stress and pain of the constant let downs.
Ask him about his wife every time he flirts. If that doesn't stop him just inform the wife.
I would seriously tell him exactly this.
“Hey, I appreciate that you're proud to be seen with me and like to take me out, but I want to get to know you beyond the wining and dining. I'd prefer if we could have some lowkey nights where we're just focusing on each other and not going all out with the razzle dazzle. I feel a bit like a trophy right now and I want our relationship to be equals. You don't need to impress me, I already like you.”
Yes because I can’t ask my late boyfriend. I don’t know what to think, honestly
Yeah, I go through my partner’s stuff as well, i see her as a possession and therefore I don’t respect her autonomy to have her own private thoughts.
I find when this causes insecurities the best way to handle it is to bottle it up, having a direct conversation about thoughts and feeling with her is beneath a man of my emotional intelligence.
You said you were uncomfortable with him using porn, you should have been more clear with him that its actually a deal breaker for you. You are allowed to feel how you want about porn, but you need to be clear with your partner about it.
Once you break up, you are not responsible for her. She's an adult, she'll be fine. Whether she quits or not is not really your issue anymore, but talk to her asap so she can make an informed decision. Break it off clean and firmly, sounds like this relationship was dead a long time ago, time to pull the bandaid off