if anyone could also let me know about things that I have been wondering for a while, were my “requests” so bad? was his family right to be offended?
He says they had to change their lifes completely because of those “requests” but the only things that they currently actively do is not use the bathroom and not eat from my groceries which I don't feel is a crazy life change?
His sister told him that she was so scared to eat from the fridge now, in case some of the things in there were mine. She could just ask me but she never did because its too much work… she just sounds overly dramatic. And that's just one example, his whole family is like this.
Dude here, you need to leave that dude. For your sake, for everyone's sake in your life. But msot importantly, for the possible sake of children yall mist have one day. Fuck that dude and some.
Sounds like he is going either way. Why are you trying to make a decision now? Absorb the situation. Even if you decide to work it out now who is to say how you will feel in 3 months or 6 or 2 years. That said, ANYTHING that puts kids in danger is a very hot no from me. What are you actually debating here?
Eh, the guy tried to shoot his shot and failed. I don’t love that he’s hitting on customers, but he sounds pretty harmless. Just continue going and pretend like nothing happened. Maybe scroll on your phone while you wait instead of engaging in small talk. He should take the hint.
If he doesn’t take the hint and questions you about it, just say you’re only here to study, you’re not interested, you’re seeing someone else, whatever.
You are outgrowing your teenage crush and are naturally expecting a more equal adult relationship.
Crushes are never equal as one person always feels the intense feelings more than the other.
And on top of that you’ve just learned that you were the only one with any romantic feelings in the beginning so you feel betrayed and like you wasted your time. Totally natural feelings.
Now you’re wanting more maybe it’s time to move on.
You will ruin this relationship all on your own if you don't wind yourself in. It's best to start dealing with your insecurities now and maybe see a therapist. There will always be someone prettier, someone skinnier, someone blah blah blah but he CHOSE you. You. Do not cage him because you are insecure. He should be free to like whatever tiktoks he likes or like Insta photos. Do not brush off his compliments because YOU are unable to believe them. This is a you problem and he can be supportive but you have to let him have freedom and trust him.
Leave, if she hasn't dealt with her issues at that age it will just progress, God forbid she gets pregnant with your child, and it will happen, she'll ensure it!
I'm gonna be a bearer of some rough news for you ina rude way.
If it was going to work out, it wouldn't take 5+ tries to do so and I say this as someone that supports taking a break in some relationships. Especially ones that start as early as yours did. Neither of you are mature enough to deal with dating each other. You both should either learn how to actually communicate or cut each other off for good. You need to find yourself before jumping into another man's arms or 10-20 yrs down the line you're not going to have any idea about who you are as a person bc you're so afraid of being alone that you havent given yourself time to figure out yourself. Happy and successful relationships take time, effort, communication, and sometimes forgiving thoughtless stupidity. You aren't willing to put actual effort into your relationship with this guy so it's not going to work out for you. Either cut the cord or actually get serious instead of putting so much effort into being overdramatic about shit that you won't actually care about later.
At 19, though, this sounds like a relatively average amount of maturity. If she was 35 it would be different.
if anyone could also let me know about things that I have been wondering for a while, were my “requests” so bad? was his family right to be offended?
He says they had to change their lifes completely because of those “requests” but the only things that they currently actively do is not use the bathroom and not eat from my groceries which I don't feel is a crazy life change?
His sister told him that she was so scared to eat from the fridge now, in case some of the things in there were mine. She could just ask me but she never did because its too much work… she just sounds overly dramatic. And that's just one example, his whole family is like this.
That would be ex gf if it was me. …and if she did this after you broke up their could be legal consequences, at least in some parts of the world.
Dude here, you need to leave that dude. For your sake, for everyone's sake in your life. But msot importantly, for the possible sake of children yall mist have one day. Fuck that dude and some.
Sounds like he is going either way. Why are you trying to make a decision now? Absorb the situation. Even if you decide to work it out now who is to say how you will feel in 3 months or 6 or 2 years. That said, ANYTHING that puts kids in danger is a very hot no from me. What are you actually debating here?
Eh, the guy tried to shoot his shot and failed. I don’t love that he’s hitting on customers, but he sounds pretty harmless. Just continue going and pretend like nothing happened. Maybe scroll on your phone while you wait instead of engaging in small talk. He should take the hint.
If he doesn’t take the hint and questions you about it, just say you’re only here to study, you’re not interested, you’re seeing someone else, whatever.
You are outgrowing your teenage crush and are naturally expecting a more equal adult relationship.
Crushes are never equal as one person always feels the intense feelings more than the other.
And on top of that you’ve just learned that you were the only one with any romantic feelings in the beginning so you feel betrayed and like you wasted your time. Totally natural feelings.
Now you’re wanting more maybe it’s time to move on.
You will ruin this relationship all on your own if you don't wind yourself in. It's best to start dealing with your insecurities now and maybe see a therapist. There will always be someone prettier, someone skinnier, someone blah blah blah but he CHOSE you. You. Do not cage him because you are insecure. He should be free to like whatever tiktoks he likes or like Insta photos. Do not brush off his compliments because YOU are unable to believe them. This is a you problem and he can be supportive but you have to let him have freedom and trust him.
Leave, if she hasn't dealt with her issues at that age it will just progress, God forbid she gets pregnant with your child, and it will happen, she'll ensure it!
He’s lying. Her vaginitis is literally in the header and he says THAT killed their sex life. He obviously cares about PIV but he doesn’t wanna say it.
I'm gonna be a bearer of some rough news for you ina rude way.
If it was going to work out, it wouldn't take 5+ tries to do so and I say this as someone that supports taking a break in some relationships. Especially ones that start as early as yours did. Neither of you are mature enough to deal with dating each other. You both should either learn how to actually communicate or cut each other off for good. You need to find yourself before jumping into another man's arms or 10-20 yrs down the line you're not going to have any idea about who you are as a person bc you're so afraid of being alone that you havent given yourself time to figure out yourself. Happy and successful relationships take time, effort, communication, and sometimes forgiving thoughtless stupidity. You aren't willing to put actual effort into your relationship with this guy so it's not going to work out for you. Either cut the cord or actually get serious instead of putting so much effort into being overdramatic about shit that you won't actually care about later.