I wouldn’t necessarily say lazy. The no cooking thing is entirely understandable but you really should be making more of an effort in your studies. Can you at least access your lectures on-line? From the sounds of it she at the very least would be accurate in calling you a slacker. Ultimately I think your sister is just worried about making sure you get a good life and is probably being a bit overbearing without knowing it. But she’s right to call you out for skipping lectures in favour of sleep. You should try and get into a routine where you have time to prepare for and attend lectures whilst still having enough time for sleep and the rest of your life 🙂
You're being too hard on yourself. You didn't lie when you told him you didn't want kids and at the time it wasn't necessary to divulge the reason why.
Your bf changed the terms of the relationship when he changed his mind about children. Even if it was possible for you to have children, his changing his mind about children would be deal breaker as far as the relationship was concerned.
At this point you both have different objectives for the relationship and maybe breaking up would be the best course of action.
It sounds like you should leave him alone. I’m sorry that he’s blocked you, but this was clearly an inappropriate relationship according to your company, and I’m guessing your boss values his career over a handful of dates with you.
Did you talk at all about what this meant at your workplace or how to approach it professionally before you slept together?
I'm sorry OP but cheating is cheating. If you were BI and slept with men behind her back would that be okay with her? I highly doubt it. I'm sorry that you have wasted 3 years with her. Please don't waste any more time in this relationship.
If he doesn't respect your no to sex, regardless of drinking or not, it's time to cut it off. That's such a basic boundary and if disrespected, he gets to cry about “how guilty he feels” for ten minutes just to go and do it again to the next girl after you (hopefully) leave and you get to on-line the rest of you life trying to heal the trauma that happens when you're raped. Don't put yourself in the position.
But I think you already know that. I think you already know what you need to do simply from reading this.
You are making the first step of healing by recognizing red flags. Now you have to ask yourself what your boundaries are and what you'll do about it.
Personally, I say leave immediately, get into therapy and take some time alone. That therapy and time will help you in so many fassests of your life, you'll wish you did it sooner. (speaking from personal experience)
My therapist told me something that stuck with me.
“A genuine apology is followed by changed behavior. If it is not, it's not an apology, it's miniputlation”
Maybe that will help you like it helped me ❤️ best of luck
I wouldn’t necessarily say lazy. The no cooking thing is entirely understandable but you really should be making more of an effort in your studies. Can you at least access your lectures on-line? From the sounds of it she at the very least would be accurate in calling you a slacker. Ultimately I think your sister is just worried about making sure you get a good life and is probably being a bit overbearing without knowing it. But she’s right to call you out for skipping lectures in favour of sleep. You should try and get into a routine where you have time to prepare for and attend lectures whilst still having enough time for sleep and the rest of your life 🙂
“I'm not greedy”. You are in a relationship with a guy you don't feel anything with just because of his money and the gifts he gives you.
God, just tell me what your parents did to make you like this, so I can avoid making the same mistakes for my future children.
Exactly!
Thank you. People are saying it will fail though lol. I guess we will see.
so while we were arguing I confessed my lie.
You're being too hard on yourself. You didn't lie when you told him you didn't want kids and at the time it wasn't necessary to divulge the reason why.
Your bf changed the terms of the relationship when he changed his mind about children. Even if it was possible for you to have children, his changing his mind about children would be deal breaker as far as the relationship was concerned.
At this point you both have different objectives for the relationship and maybe breaking up would be the best course of action.
Stop doing FWB. Stop dating men a decade older than you. Hang out with women friends.
It sounds like you should leave him alone. I’m sorry that he’s blocked you, but this was clearly an inappropriate relationship according to your company, and I’m guessing your boss values his career over a handful of dates with you.
Did you talk at all about what this meant at your workplace or how to approach it professionally before you slept together?
Well… do you always (or majority of the time) pick a fight after visiting his family?
And why does his family need to invite yours over?
I'm sorry OP but cheating is cheating. If you were BI and slept with men behind her back would that be okay with her? I highly doubt it. I'm sorry that you have wasted 3 years with her. Please don't waste any more time in this relationship.
Classic sunken cost fallacy.
Time to end it
If he doesn't respect your no to sex, regardless of drinking or not, it's time to cut it off. That's such a basic boundary and if disrespected, he gets to cry about “how guilty he feels” for ten minutes just to go and do it again to the next girl after you (hopefully) leave and you get to on-line the rest of you life trying to heal the trauma that happens when you're raped. Don't put yourself in the position.
But I think you already know that. I think you already know what you need to do simply from reading this.
You are making the first step of healing by recognizing red flags. Now you have to ask yourself what your boundaries are and what you'll do about it.
Personally, I say leave immediately, get into therapy and take some time alone. That therapy and time will help you in so many fassests of your life, you'll wish you did it sooner. (speaking from personal experience)
My therapist told me something that stuck with me.
“A genuine apology is followed by changed behavior. If it is not, it's not an apology, it's miniputlation”
Maybe that will help you like it helped me ❤️ best of luck