You know i wasnt expecting someone to say something meaningful intellectually. But you can understand how desperate i am in this situation and cant really talk about it with everyone. I am glad i did because i got to read your response. Thank you for this.
Yea ig your right, I was just thrown off since we started so well and suddenly he flips. I don’t want to seem insensitive if he actually was going through too much but in my opinion a couple texts saying that he needs space and time isn’t that much effort especially for someone ur supposed to care abt.
If you feel like a friend when sex is off the table, it sounds more like just physical attraction than an actual relationship. Do you guys plan on getting married any time soon?
I think you’re looking at relationships a bit in the “one size fits all” way.
You have a boundary about phone privacy that she’s crossing here. You also feel like porn is something you want in a healthy relationship (including insta posts).
Your girlfriend has a different view on porn in relationships she’s in. It sounds like she set down a solid boundary about it and is upset that you disregarded that.
Maybe seeing things as “one size fits all” is the problem? If you think there is one healthy way to handle this then you might not have communicated your phone or porn boundary and just expected her to know (correct me if I’m wrong and you did explicitly set these boundaries)? Then from her perspective she’s setting boundaries that you’re agreeing to and then lying about. And from your perspective she’s not being fair and her emotions are unreasonable?
Also…. I don’t think it’s ever very appropriate to say someone’s reaction is wrong. She’s valid for having those boundaries (and it’s not unreasonable that she feels that way) and you are valid in yours. You both need to communicate a bit more to determine if you would both be happy with a compromise or if this is a dealbreaker. You also need to both hold to your agreement and not unilaterally change your mind later without telling your partner.
He’s my brother and I love him. I don’t make it my business, the only reason I’m bringing this up is that his family unit is coming here and we’re all going to interact.
I am so sorry ???
You don't have kids, you're not tied down and it sounds like she isn't happy. I think the decision has been made for you.
No they fucking don't. There are plenty of childfree women his age that don't require marriage “tomorrow.” He is a creep.
She gets her pleasure from pleasuring him. And there’s nothing wrong with that. She’s doing a great job.
You know i wasnt expecting someone to say something meaningful intellectually. But you can understand how desperate i am in this situation and cant really talk about it with everyone. I am glad i did because i got to read your response. Thank you for this.
we on-line on the same Island and we only have each other on snapchat. We met off of tinder. He never told me that he has another partner
Yea ig your right, I was just thrown off since we started so well and suddenly he flips. I don’t want to seem insensitive if he actually was going through too much but in my opinion a couple texts saying that he needs space and time isn’t that much effort especially for someone ur supposed to care abt.
If you feel like a friend when sex is off the table, it sounds more like just physical attraction than an actual relationship. Do you guys plan on getting married any time soon?
Because you keep doing the same shit over and over again!!
I think you’re looking at relationships a bit in the “one size fits all” way.
You have a boundary about phone privacy that she’s crossing here. You also feel like porn is something you want in a healthy relationship (including insta posts).
Your girlfriend has a different view on porn in relationships she’s in. It sounds like she set down a solid boundary about it and is upset that you disregarded that.
Maybe seeing things as “one size fits all” is the problem? If you think there is one healthy way to handle this then you might not have communicated your phone or porn boundary and just expected her to know (correct me if I’m wrong and you did explicitly set these boundaries)? Then from her perspective she’s setting boundaries that you’re agreeing to and then lying about. And from your perspective she’s not being fair and her emotions are unreasonable?
Also…. I don’t think it’s ever very appropriate to say someone’s reaction is wrong. She’s valid for having those boundaries (and it’s not unreasonable that she feels that way) and you are valid in yours. You both need to communicate a bit more to determine if you would both be happy with a compromise or if this is a dealbreaker. You also need to both hold to your agreement and not unilaterally change your mind later without telling your partner.
He’s my brother and I love him. I don’t make it my business, the only reason I’m bringing this up is that his family unit is coming here and we’re all going to interact.
Walk away sis
Medical issues, no financial stability, no housing stability, no job…and she thinks having a baby and a wedding is a good idea?
How does she plan to deal with it financially? How can she care for a child if she can't hold a job due to medical issues?
Girl is delusional.
100% this