Im doing her homework because she has some form of disability that makes it hot for her to read and describe. In short I felt bad that I’m somewhat competent at writing and as A husband I felt it was my duty to help.
It went bad because she lacks confidence. That transmuted into anxiety and that anxiety transfigured into anger and complaining once I broke the trust.
My past fed into her anxiety. My cheating of previous partners, my ex, my perceived preference for certain women … all made her feel inadequate. Then it was me, anxious I would put off talking because I am not good at dealing with these kind of situations. Then it also became the aforementioned and me not wanting to take hours over something that has been previously addressed.
Over time she became more aggressive too. Which made it hard for me to love her. She put bleach on my shirts when she found out I smoked weed. She stabbed my computer chair. On the way to work she has raised her voice when I attempted to do small talk …
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Sadly, yeah, this is a one no, two yes, situation. If your roomie says no, then that's that. It isn't fair to put an animal in a situation where one person doesn't want it around. I would say it's time to talk to your roommate about how important it is to you and start planning for the future to move out and on-line solo.
do some research on parental neglect. There must be some subreddit for it. Parental neglect is actually worse than hating your kid.
Don't know why everybody thinks i dont spend time with him i do.
Then why is it that you dont know what your son likes? Why did you have to give him money? Infact, what exactly does your child like and what are his interests? Can you name them?
im on the verge of leaving her and never coming back
If she's a decent mother she should be the one leaving you. Your son shouldn't have to suffer from a neglectful father and a pushover mother.
Here's is a gist of the issue –
You sound like you're in the camp of parents who think ' I paid for my child (house, food education etc) so he must be happy and grateful'. That's why you think giving him money is enough. It's not.
You are neglectful of your child and what his interests are. This is made worse by the fact that you're actually capable of being interested in your child's interests- as shown with your other two children. You're telling your son specifically that he isn't worth your time for you to learn about what he is into.
Ans yes iy is infact your job to educate yourself in what your kid likes and finds interesting, because you're the adult AND the parent here. You're not suppose to only spend time with your kids that 'take after you'. I hope you see that
Yeah that’s happening! I’m personally reaching the anger stage of grief right now and I’m rereading all the paragraphs he wrote out to confront me with. I was and still quite a bit, deeply confused about why he’s mad at me for being mad at him for defending against such a racist remark. He’s also tried justifying that saying the N word would be fine if people moved on.
But overall thanks for your reassurance it means a lot. I really thought for a sec I missed something there but I think I did the right thing in fighting for my values there. I guess I’m just with the wrong person.
I personally think this problem lies with you. You tell that when he is fully clothed he still looks attractive to you but not when he isn't which makes it sound like to me that he isn't as dangerously overweight as you make it sound like. You really need to short out this obsession with body image before you possibly make your husband a victim of ED.
I was right…y'all offended cuz y'all don't understand. It's not a “who has it worse competition” I'm just saying I understand his fear as well as yours.
Says the guy who doesn’t even know what a woman is.
Im doing her homework because she has some form of disability that makes it hot for her to read and describe. In short I felt bad that I’m somewhat competent at writing and as A husband I felt it was my duty to help.
It went bad because she lacks confidence. That transmuted into anxiety and that anxiety transfigured into anger and complaining once I broke the trust.
My past fed into her anxiety. My cheating of previous partners, my ex, my perceived preference for certain women … all made her feel inadequate. Then it was me, anxious I would put off talking because I am not good at dealing with these kind of situations. Then it also became the aforementioned and me not wanting to take hours over something that has been previously addressed.
Over time she became more aggressive too. Which made it hard for me to love her. She put bleach on my shirts when she found out I smoked weed. She stabbed my computer chair. On the way to work she has raised her voice when I attempted to do small talk …
I agree with this completely. OP seems to have a pretty clear head on their shoulders about the situation they are in. The wife is abusive.
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Sadly, yeah, this is a one no, two yes, situation. If your roomie says no, then that's that. It isn't fair to put an animal in a situation where one person doesn't want it around. I would say it's time to talk to your roommate about how important it is to you and start planning for the future to move out and on-line solo.
Any advice
do some research on parental neglect. There must be some subreddit for it. Parental neglect is actually worse than hating your kid.
Don't know why everybody thinks i dont spend time with him i do.
Then why is it that you dont know what your son likes? Why did you have to give him money? Infact, what exactly does your child like and what are his interests? Can you name them?
im on the verge of leaving her and never coming back
If she's a decent mother she should be the one leaving you. Your son shouldn't have to suffer from a neglectful father and a pushover mother.
Here's is a gist of the issue –
You sound like you're in the camp of parents who think ' I paid for my child (house, food education etc) so he must be happy and grateful'. That's why you think giving him money is enough. It's not.
You are neglectful of your child and what his interests are. This is made worse by the fact that you're actually capable of being interested in your child's interests- as shown with your other two children. You're telling your son specifically that he isn't worth your time for you to learn about what he is into.
Ans yes iy is infact your job to educate yourself in what your kid likes and finds interesting, because you're the adult AND the parent here. You're not suppose to only spend time with your kids that 'take after you'. I hope you see that
“Weird” means unexpected. Nope, not unexpected. Cheaters cheat.
I'm so sorry OP. At least you dodged a bullet, you will be alright I promise you.
Out of curiosity how often do you initiate?
Get new friends . Real friends wouldn’t treat you like this.
Yeah that’s happening! I’m personally reaching the anger stage of grief right now and I’m rereading all the paragraphs he wrote out to confront me with. I was and still quite a bit, deeply confused about why he’s mad at me for being mad at him for defending against such a racist remark. He’s also tried justifying that saying the N word would be fine if people moved on.
But overall thanks for your reassurance it means a lot. I really thought for a sec I missed something there but I think I did the right thing in fighting for my values there. I guess I’m just with the wrong person.
I personally think this problem lies with you. You tell that when he is fully clothed he still looks attractive to you but not when he isn't which makes it sound like to me that he isn't as dangerously overweight as you make it sound like. You really need to short out this obsession with body image before you possibly make your husband a victim of ED.
I was right…y'all offended cuz y'all don't understand. It's not a “who has it worse competition” I'm just saying I understand his fear as well as yours.
I'd rather him not comment at all. Is ur man the 1 that says it's either I bag on them or call them beautiful?