I'll explain, men don't want gifts. Men take pride in being able to provide for their families and have the ability purchase what they need / want during the year. Stop confusing what would make you happy would make him happy. All you're doing is stressing him and you out.
Hm, should I invite him to the gym more? I didn't want him to feel like I was asking him to workout with me. I've hinted at him trying out the sauna and steam room but he didn't seem very interested.
Also; vasectomies aren’t effective immediately. You need to wait 3 months, handle in a sperm sample, and only if that’s clear you can be sure that you’re sterile. Either this guy doesn’t know that; or he doesn’t care to tell you; or he’s even not planning to get a vasectomy at all. Either way I wouldn’t trust him!
Then HE can wear an engagement ring. She doesn't even want one. Imposing the “symbol” on her when she's not a jewelry person and has no interest in having it on her finger is self-centered.
I understand not wanting to buy an expensive ring if she loses jewelry frequently, but she doesn't even want a ring in the first place. He needs to listen to his actual partner instead of making up this weird test surrounding an item she doesn't want.
Yeah, I think this dude is jealous of OP's accomplishment. That's why he gave her an alibi gift, and then didn't put any (like any) effort into getting her her food.
Also am I crazy, but if I ever went to dinner with my girlfriend at a restaurant and she spent it watching something on her phone (unless it's a once in a lifetime thing like… idk, can't think of anything), idk how I'd react but we'd definitely not be okay.
if you didn’t think it was even a little bit wrong you wouldn’t have to hide it.
I'll explain, men don't want gifts. Men take pride in being able to provide for their families and have the ability purchase what they need / want during the year. Stop confusing what would make you happy would make him happy. All you're doing is stressing him and you out.
Lol
To me it seems simple. You out the “friend”, cut them from your life, and find better friends.
Or you've decided that being in an open relationship is your thing. But she fucks around… you know this.
Worse than…what? A child you basically tricked her into having? If you do anything, go tell the baby's father what you did.
At this point, the lie’s the issue. As others have noted, the effect of a lie lingers a long time, growing to an inevitable explosion.
I’m continually amazed that couples, esp of short duration, can invade each other’s privacy like this. It’s shocking to me.
Hm, should I invite him to the gym more? I didn't want him to feel like I was asking him to workout with me. I've hinted at him trying out the sauna and steam room but he didn't seem very interested.
Also; vasectomies aren’t effective immediately. You need to wait 3 months, handle in a sperm sample, and only if that’s clear you can be sure that you’re sterile. Either this guy doesn’t know that; or he doesn’t care to tell you; or he’s even not planning to get a vasectomy at all. Either way I wouldn’t trust him!
Or maybe the symbol is a really big deal for him?
Then HE can wear an engagement ring. She doesn't even want one. Imposing the “symbol” on her when she's not a jewelry person and has no interest in having it on her finger is self-centered.
I understand not wanting to buy an expensive ring if she loses jewelry frequently, but she doesn't even want a ring in the first place. He needs to listen to his actual partner instead of making up this weird test surrounding an item she doesn't want.
It would be wrong for me to advise you on those texts on her phone. Hold onto that until you get in couples counseling, address it there.
Yeah, I think this dude is jealous of OP's accomplishment. That's why he gave her an alibi gift, and then didn't put any (like any) effort into getting her her food.
Also am I crazy, but if I ever went to dinner with my girlfriend at a restaurant and she spent it watching something on her phone (unless it's a once in a lifetime thing like… idk, can't think of anything), idk how I'd react but we'd definitely not be okay.