7 years and this mfer is still complaining about the food you cook for him? This jerk should be getting up off his ass and helping. If he doesn’t like the way something is prepared, then he can show you how he likes it by doing it himself. If there’s a side dish he doesn’t enjoy, he can make one for himself while you make the one you like. The biggest thing is to try cooking together. Communicate as the meal is being made the kinds of things each of you want to see in the dish. He should also try cooking alone, for you.
He needs to learn that cooking is hot, and it is an act of love. Every time you have ever served him a meal you have done it out of love, and him rudely rejecting it can end up feeling like he’s rejecting you. Yes, everybody has taste preferences, but these are things best communicated beforehand, and sometimes compromises need to be made.
From personal experience, I can say that it's tough before you do it, but the relief is very much worth it.
I was also surprised at how many little things I loved had been taken away from me without my realizing it until I got those things back. (Think less stuff and more aspects of myself, including the joys of expressing an opinion without fear of fallout.)
Keep your finances separate for the time being and both contribute to a joint account from which all expenses are paid. No expense is to be paid from this account unless you both agree it is a joint expense. I suggest this because finances are the second most common cause of breakup (first is infidelity).
Hey I’m sorry your going through this but this situation reminds me of a post I read on her where the wife had stop having sex with her husband because she cheated on him with an foreign exchange student and contracted HIV and she didn’t wanna tell him so she would try and gaslight him and say he was addicted to sex and there’s more to a relationship than sex.this could be a similar situation with you I would have said maybe he’s going through something mentally but if he’s watching porn frequently then it’s not a matter of he can’t preform so you may wanna see if he was or is cheating on you.
Think “Is this something my mother would have said or done?” then don’t do it. Stop repeating the cycle.
Get a therapist or if that’s too expensive, even just listen to podcasts or read books about parenting styles and the damage they can do. You have to repair the emotional damage that was done to you and stop it harming your adult relationships.
Don’t choose. Date them both and see how you’re enjoying it. Entirely ethical until you decide to negotiate a formal relationship, and you can be up front you’re seeing other people as well.
This is over
Good lord, what a selfish human being you're marrying. I really hope you got a prenup before this wedding…..
7 years and this mfer is still complaining about the food you cook for him? This jerk should be getting up off his ass and helping. If he doesn’t like the way something is prepared, then he can show you how he likes it by doing it himself. If there’s a side dish he doesn’t enjoy, he can make one for himself while you make the one you like. The biggest thing is to try cooking together. Communicate as the meal is being made the kinds of things each of you want to see in the dish. He should also try cooking alone, for you.
He needs to learn that cooking is hot, and it is an act of love. Every time you have ever served him a meal you have done it out of love, and him rudely rejecting it can end up feeling like he’s rejecting you. Yes, everybody has taste preferences, but these are things best communicated beforehand, and sometimes compromises need to be made.
From personal experience, I can say that it's tough before you do it, but the relief is very much worth it.
I was also surprised at how many little things I loved had been taken away from me without my realizing it until I got those things back. (Think less stuff and more aspects of myself, including the joys of expressing an opinion without fear of fallout.)
Ugghh, I wouldn't bring her anywhere. That is disgusting
Keep your finances separate for the time being and both contribute to a joint account from which all expenses are paid. No expense is to be paid from this account unless you both agree it is a joint expense. I suggest this because finances are the second most common cause of breakup (first is infidelity).
Good luck to both of you on your new adventure!
Hey I’m sorry your going through this but this situation reminds me of a post I read on her where the wife had stop having sex with her husband because she cheated on him with an foreign exchange student and contracted HIV and she didn’t wanna tell him so she would try and gaslight him and say he was addicted to sex and there’s more to a relationship than sex.this could be a similar situation with you I would have said maybe he’s going through something mentally but if he’s watching porn frequently then it’s not a matter of he can’t preform so you may wanna see if he was or is cheating on you.
Think “Is this something my mother would have said or done?” then don’t do it. Stop repeating the cycle.
Get a therapist or if that’s too expensive, even just listen to podcasts or read books about parenting styles and the damage they can do. You have to repair the emotional damage that was done to you and stop it harming your adult relationships.
Don’t choose. Date them both and see how you’re enjoying it. Entirely ethical until you decide to negotiate a formal relationship, and you can be up front you’re seeing other people as well.