This is not an unusual story for young people, if it is an actual event and not karma farming. It is pretty well known that a person will view one relationship as the stable safe one and keep another going for the tingles. It is not, however, usually something that comes out after 10 years unless there is some other compelling reason. This kind of thing normally gets taken to the grave rather than purposely hurt a partner.
What do you mean ex?
Why would you accept a poor bedroom for 3 years and want that forever through marriage?
Has he shown any interest in improving? You sure he’s not fine with being selfish?
You expect not to be attracted to anyone else? That’s not going to happen.
Attraction is not the problem.
This is not an unusual story for young people, if it is an actual event and not karma farming. It is pretty well known that a person will view one relationship as the stable safe one and keep another going for the tingles. It is not, however, usually something that comes out after 10 years unless there is some other compelling reason. This kind of thing normally gets taken to the grave rather than purposely hurt a partner.